Do you hate talking about those things??

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Two boys fought and one stabbed the other at school. People at school keep talking about this bad thing which happened at school last year until today which is really disturbing, they keep talking and making jokes about this subject and they keep talking about the blood and those things. I don't like how they like that kind of 'action' and how find it so intresting
I don't like that people keep talking about it till today, they keep dragging on this subject. Do you hate talking about those kind of things??

I don't like talking about that kind of things. It's rather depressing.

In my experience most people love talking about other people's problems, tragedies, misfortune and other negative things. They often keep bringing up such topics saying "oh, I feel so sorry about..." with a smile on their faces when they could choose to talk about other things. They seem to love it when other people are unhappy.

I don't like to go about violent incidents or gore. It seems to me that these things are what they are and you have to get on with life.

My understanding is that some people talk about these things a lot as a way of processing their intense emotional response to the event.

I don't relate to the need to talk about it, but I used to do a lot of drawings about things that upset me when I was a kid--so war drawings about violence, drawings about people using drugs in high school. I can't explain why I had to make so many cartoons or drawings about things that were not a part of my life, but I think it was some similar kind of emotional processing.

I think it's reasonable to say, "I understand that you need to talk about these things, but it upsets me, so I prefer not to participate."

Yep....kids (and all people) like to rehash traumatic events which made an impact upon them.

They have a fascination/revulsion at the same time with these sorts of events--hence, the impact.

Truthfully, I feel like it's better to talk it out, joke about it, rather than keeping it inside you. Things that are kept "inside" you tend to percolate like coffee, heating up until you can't take it any more.

I could understand, as well, the desire not to want to speak about these things. I don't think I would tell your friends not to talk about this stuff--but, maybe, you could say something along the lines of "what happened to that guy is in the past--can't we go on to something else?"

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I think people like talking about those things because it seems to them like something new or something thrilling- it makes them excited or glad that they're not the ones who got hurt and makes them feel like the 'survivors'
I know you have to say what you feel and that its better but sometimes its better to keep things to yourself because things you say might be harmful to others, I think bad memories and feelings shouldn't be recalled. Its disturbing how just the next day after that happened I heard people making jokes about it like someone asked the teacher why students aren't allowed to wait outside and a girl replied "so you won't get stabbed" in a sarcastic way, I thought that was mean to say just lightly making fun of that thing
I still don't understand how just someone could stab someone they see oftenly whos the same age as them
I don't like how people talked about the blood; its the blood of the person who goes to school with you everyday how could you talk about it like that don't you remember seeing that person healthy then seeing his blood like that or that he got stabbed/injured, how can't they find that sad, I don't think people like to talk so much about things that makes them sad
I also don't like how they kept acting suprised it was so annoying

I wouldn't make a joke about a situation involving a person being stabbed. Talking about it does not bother me, as it is very big scandal and people will talk about it for weeks after the incident. But I wouldn't make jokes about it.

You should Google "gallows humor."

What you describe: people joking about the stabbing, is very similar to "gallows humor" The "gallows" is the place where people used to go when they were to be executed.

For the most part, I believe people indulge in this kind of humor to offset the fear/hurt/pain of the event.

There are times, however, when people are abusive to others while making use of that humor.

I like gallows humor and black comedy. Sometimes I make those kinds of jokes just to shock people.

I know gallows humor, its funny if its not based on a real incident; its depressing to hear about real bad things