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campboy92
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07 Dec 2014, 3:38 pm

Yesterday was so humiliating. I went out to a friends birthday and the bouncer pulled my friend aside and asked if I was "special" or "on drugs" and then she was like "no! He's just so different and cool and creative" I felt completely like a zoo animal. It was so upsetting I had to leave - I also kept stimming and putting my finger over the candle and playing with the empty beer bottle like spinning it, then these guys to the side kept screaming "come take shots" and I was like "no! I don't drink"

So messed up how I simply can't just exist on a planet, all I was doing was standing in line



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07 Dec 2014, 4:04 pm

Why did that bother you? So what if a bouncer thinks that.

I get that too, and I'm not even autistic!



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07 Dec 2014, 6:17 pm

that is why I drink socially, so I dont do all that stuff you were doing, like playing with bottles.



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08 Dec 2014, 12:19 am

campboy92 wrote:
Yesterday was so humiliating. I went out to a friends birthday and the bouncer pulled my friend aside and asked if I was "special" or "on drugs" and then she was like "no! He's just so different and cool and creative" I felt completely like a zoo animal. It was so upsetting I had to leave - I also kept stimming and putting my finger over the candle and playing with the empty beer bottle like spinning it, then these guys to the side kept screaming "come take shots" and I was like "no! I don't drink"

So messed up how I simply can't just exist on a planet, all I was doing was standing in line


Similar things have happened to me in the past. I try to avoid those situations, or be more conscious about my appearance.



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08 Dec 2014, 4:26 am

agwood wrote:
Why did that bother you? So what if a bouncer thinks that.

I get that too, and I'm not even autistic!


I always get asked if I'm a virgin. :/



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08 Dec 2014, 4:48 am

The bouncer probably needed to know for your safety.



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08 Dec 2014, 4:49 am

going out to a bar is generally the ultimate extrovert activity, you'll get subjected to this ALL the time. i don't go to these at all.

i drink, but only with friends. and not very often.


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08 Dec 2014, 4:54 am

886 wrote:
going out to a bar is generally the ultimate extrovert activity, you'll get subjected to this ALL the time. i don't go to these at all.

i drink, but only with friends. and not very often.


When I go to a bar I'm wrapped up in whatever I'm eating or drinking to notice anything like that. I don't socialize.



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08 Dec 2014, 5:21 am

FedUpAsp wrote:
886 wrote:
going out to a bar is generally the ultimate extrovert activity, you'll get subjected to this ALL the time. i don't go to these at all.

i drink, but only with friends. and not very often.


When I go to a bar I'm wrapped up in whatever I'm eating or drinking to notice anything like that. I don't socialize.

i suppose if you have good friends and a good routine, it works out well.


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08 Dec 2014, 5:24 am

886 wrote:
FedUpAsp wrote:
886 wrote:
going out to a bar is generally the ultimate extrovert activity, you'll get subjected to this ALL the time. i don't go to these at all.

i drink, but only with friends. and not very often.


When I go to a bar I'm wrapped up in whatever I'm eating or drinking to notice anything like that. I don't socialize.

i suppose if you have good friends and a good routine, it works out well.


Whoops I meant to say "too wrapped up in whatever I'm eating or drinking".