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jenisautistic
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10 Dec 2014, 9:25 pm

Be yourself, don't lie about who you are.


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11 Dec 2014, 12:19 am

That's always worked great for me on all the forums I post to.



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11 Dec 2014, 12:28 am

I'm never one to mince my words :wink:



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11 Dec 2014, 12:02 pm

What your message?


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11 Dec 2014, 12:23 pm

I'm from another planet. I come in peace. Please take me to your leader.


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11 Dec 2014, 12:53 pm

Don't be afraid to be yourself here. :D


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11 Dec 2014, 1:10 pm

jenisautistic wrote:
Be yourself, don't lie about who you are.


Say what?



b9
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11 Dec 2014, 1:19 pm

jenisautistic wrote:
Be yourself, don't lie about who you are.

there seems to be an element of hostility in your words.
i do not think it is good to posit yourself as a "veteran" and tell new members anything with the imputation that you are a representative of the rest of the people on this forum.



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11 Dec 2014, 3:11 pm

b9 wrote:
jenisautistic wrote:
Be yourself, don't lie about who you are.

there seems to be an element of hostility in your words.
i do not think it is good to posit yourself as a "veteran" and tell new members anything with the imputation that you are a representative of the rest of the people on this forum.

I think the intention was for any interested veterans to post their own nuggets of experience for new people. It's maybe a little presumptuous, but new members don't have to read it.

I can't think of any paradigms to share right now, so I'd just say "welcome aboard"



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11 Dec 2014, 3:50 pm

Oh dear, they caught me :oops:

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11 Dec 2014, 3:55 pm

Don't let the more blunt/abrupt people here scare you away.....I can't help thinking some newer people have done just that when I wish they'd stick around and see there are plenty of compassionate supportive people...and that any website will have its drama, people acting like jerks(sometimes such people might just be having a bad day). Though I have seen some sites that have a much more apparent 'scare the newbies into leaving' attitude than this one.


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11 Dec 2014, 3:58 pm

b9 wrote:
jenisautistic wrote:
Be yourself, don't lie about who you are.

there seems to be an element of hostility in your words.
i do not think it is good to posit yourself as a "veteran" and tell new members anything with the imputation that you are a representative of the rest of the people on this forum.


I'd think people should know in that context it just means, someone who's been here a long time...not necessarily that they represent everyone here. Either way not sure hostility was intended would have to see what the OP says..their intent was.


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12 Dec 2014, 12:46 am

My message is whenever life gets you down, just remember we are all living in a giant fishbowl



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12 Dec 2014, 9:30 am

ToughDiamond wrote:
b9 wrote:
jenisautistic wrote:
Be yourself, don't lie about who you are.

there seems to be an element of hostility in your words.
i do not think it is good to posit yourself as a "veteran" and tell new members anything with the imputation that you are a representative of the rest of the people on this forum.

I think the intention was for any interested veterans to post their own nuggets of experience for new people.

i did not think of it that way. i guess you may be right.



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12 Dec 2014, 9:40 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
b9 wrote:
jenisautistic wrote:
Be yourself, don't lie about who you are.

there seems to be an element of hostility in your words.
i do not think it is good to posit yourself as a "veteran" and tell new members anything with the imputation that you are a representative of the rest of the people on this forum.


I'd think people should know in that context it just means, someone who's been here a long time...not necessarily that they represent everyone here. Either way not sure hostility was intended would have to see what the OP says..their intent was.

i suppose i was hasty in my interpretation of her post. i am not a good judge of intent.
i can see that saying "Be yourself" can mean "don't hold back or be shy" with the implication that "it does not matter how you are, you will be accepted", but the use of the word "lie" was what tripped my interpretation toward the negative.
a lie is a deliberately presented falsehood, and it is an act of deception, and i thought she was saying akin to "don't misrepresent yourself as autistic if you are not". i was probably wrong and am interested to hear what she further has to say.



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12 Dec 2014, 4:02 pm

b9 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
b9 wrote:
jenisautistic wrote:
Be yourself, don't lie about who you are.

there seems to be an element of hostility in your words.
i do not think it is good to posit yourself as a "veteran" and tell new members anything with the imputation that you are a representative of the rest of the people on this forum.


I'd think people should know in that context it just means, someone who's been here a long time...not necessarily that they represent everyone here. Either way not sure hostility was intended would have to see what the OP says..their intent was.

i suppose i was hasty in my interpretation of her post. i am not a good judge of intent.
i can see that saying "Be yourself" can mean "don't hold back or be shy" with the implication that "it does not matter how you are, you will be accepted", but the use of the word "lie" was what tripped my interpretation toward the negative.
a lie is a deliberately presented falsehood, and it is an act of deception, and i thought she was saying akin to "don't misrepresent yourself as autistic if you are not". i was probably wrong and am interested to hear what she further has to say.


Interesting.
My interpretation was:

"take this advice from someone who has been here for a while: it's better just to be authentic, don't try to hide or show off, but be honest and sincere."

I think EzraS interpreted it that way, too.