First ever New Year's party. Advice?

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I'm 17, aspie and going to my first New Year's part ever tomorrow. And I'm frightened to death.
New Year is not a huge deal for me so I've always just celebrated it at home with my closest family. Though this year one of my closest friend asked me to come to her New Year's party ("New Year's with nerdsquad" as she dubbed it) and I thought: Why not? We're only 4-5 people invited, I feel comfortable at her house etc. It can't possible be that bad.

But I'm starting to get really anxious. I don't really drink (at all) so I'm scared of the peer pressure + the general drunkenness, and I'm close with my friend but not with the others.

I really don't want to back out and give up before I've given it a shot, but I can really feel the anxiety and stress building steadily. Anyone have any advice to give me? I would really appreciate it.

Good for you to take that step forward, I hope you have a good time.

Well advice needs to be given to your specific difficulties so unless you share those only those who know you are the best to give advice. General advice though would be stick close to your friend, copy, but be honest with yourself. If you don’t want to drink don’t drink. Having someone your close to at a party is perfect so just join in where and how you can.

Drunk people can be a problem. The positive though they won’t have a clue if you screw up. The best thing is that you're going to experience it and learn from there what you want to do next. Maybe you'll learn you like it or maybe you'll hate it either way you'll know what to do in the future.

As for the anxiety and stress how people deal with them varies. I have learned to not give them fuel, stop thinking about the bad and tell yourself it's going to be good think of reasonable positive possibilities. Think up the worst possible outcome, that's reasonable, and then have an emergency plan for it. And whenever you need comfort remind yourself of it but aside from that just refuse to think about bad possibilities in whatever way works for you. A good slap, talking with yourself, cold water to the face, meditation, exercise or combinations. Exercise can work quite well to relieve stress for youth.