are you married/in a relationship?

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i've never had a relationship beyond a one night stand. never had friends because being around people is so draining. i just like my nieces and siblings company.

what about you?

No and don't see that happening.

I'm in a relationship, and I'm very happy. This is the first time I have been in a proper relationship, and I spend a lot of time at his place, particularly at week-ends. I couldn't see myself in a relationship a few months ago before I met him. I just couldn't see that happening, at least not until I'm, like, 50. So now my new motto is ''you don't know what's round the corner''. One week you could be a single, lonely person. The next week you could be asked out on a date by a really cute guy you never thought you would end up with.

Been married 23 years!

I'm engaged to a wonderful man with ASD. We met here on WP and dated for about a year before he proposed.

I absolutely hate when attached people say this.

I don't care about your situation. I care about mine, and, no, there is no happy relationship waiting for me around the corner. So don't give me platitudes, because you have no idea.

I can't be bothered digging them out right now, but aren't the national statistics for Aspies/autistics being married or in a relationship much, much lower than 67%?

Sometimes I wish there was a forum for less successful Aspies that are single. If I want people parading their brilliant, loving, supportive partners, I can just go to Facebook for that.

I've been in a relationship for over 5 years.
Not really got any other friends though.
I am friendly with people on Facebook, but in person I really only have acquaintances and colleagues [who I'm not friends with outside of work].

Sorry if I offended you. But I was just like you about 10 months ago. People were like ''you'll meet someone soon!'' and it used to make me angry because I was like ''but who? When? Everybody's married or just not my type, and I don't go anywhere to meet anyone!'' I was so depressed, I thought my life was over. Even my Aspie peers were happy in relationships, and I just felt worthless and lonely and felt I was never going to meet anybody. I was wallowing in doubt. I was on the verge of suicide. I had to go on meds just to cope with the fact that I was lonely and single.

Nah always been single. (Though I am only 17.)

Like I said, you literally don't know me or what my social/communication issues are. Plus you are 15 years younger than me.

It's easy to trot out the meaningless platitudes when you are doing well. I'd honestly just rather somebody bragged about their partner, saying "look what I've got and what you haven't!" - amounts to the same thing anyway.

I was in a relationship and I ended it in the Summer of 2013. As much as I'd like to be in a new relationship now, there are several factors keeping me from being in a relationship.

I loose interest in girls easily. If she's not %100 perfect physically or if she looks like she will get fat by middle age I usually end up breaking up with them after they say they want to be with me forever. Sad really but that's how us men are programmed. Makes me not want to be human or participate in dating at all if these are the terms pre wired in my brain.

I think I should just stay single, I hate having someone dependant on me and taking away my free time. I don't want to have to give someone constant attention. I don't want to get sucked into marriage or children and resent it for the rest of my life. I've dated lots of girls and I just don't see the point if how much I love her depends on how physicall attractive she is and how cute her face is...that's just messed up.

The worst part is that there is no escaping this kind of thinking, I've tried many times but the primative part of my brain just wins in the end.

I've been married for 19 years.

Before that, I had several fairly long-term relationships.

When I was in my 20's, I was somewhat promiscuous, and moved around from apartment to apartment. When I was 29, I got a stable place, and began to have more stable relationships.

Most of the time, there have been problems because of my ASD--but we usually solve them, somehow.

In a relationship and extremely happy! My boyfriend is the most amazing, accepting person ever, and I wouldn't give him up for anything. <3

Me? in a Relationship? Like that would happen!

Even though I badly want one right now, it'll look like it's forever be just a wet dream...