i realized why i cant relate or watch fiction movies/tv show

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I just went on a walk and realized something - I think the source and a lot of my alienation and frustration comes from the fact that I'm not able to relate to others in the way they relate to each other which can be really imprisoning and confusing most of the time, I think that's why I come off as angry and hateful to people.

I realized why I don't understand or like movies/TV shows that are fiction because I am not neurotypical. I don't mean this in a pretentious way but if you've noticed with the current youth culture, people always share things and say "me". It's rare, I ever relate to anyone unless I'm on this forum or listen to one of the artists I like speak. I pay more attention to details, fiction doesn't excite or remove me from reality when I am already so removed. A inanimate object is more fascinating to me than watching the shining or caring about Stanley Kubrick. Also watching movies about neurotypicals puts me into a self loathing mode of "Oh, wow I bet that person has never had to deal with feeling sensory overload from Facebook or Twitter. Or, I bet that person hasn't had an intrusive thought". I take it very literally, I forget it's fiction and I get jealous of seeing their normal lives. I've never gotten a chance to integrate into the society like my peers have.

I also hate fiction books... This is why I love non fiction everything: documentaries, pictures because it's real.

A great deal of how I relate to people is from books, movies, and occasional tv shows. I think that I subconsciously see them as a tutorial. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.

When a book, movie, or tv show is too far out to where it cannot possibly be seen as having any value as a tutorial, I can't stand to read or watch it. This include nearly all horror movies.

I don't tend to relate to fictional characters any more or less than I do people IRL. Sometimes they will say things or do something that I think reminds me of myself, but it always very shallow things and nothing ever hits me on a profound level of understanding that character/relating.

Sometimes I can relate to the characters, e.g. chasing after or escaping from the baddies. Other times I can't.

For me it's more about face recognition, difficulty in paying long, hard attention to the dialogue so I won't lose the plot, and hearing the words above the background sounds. An hour is a very long time for me to focus on a thing, if it's not extremely interesting to me. I also get distracted by implausible storylines, which break the illusion that it's really happening, and by insignificant details. It's hard for me to follow a plot when I know perfectly well that it can't really have happened that way. I also have a short-term memory problem, so I forget when somebody's been shot, etc.

It's very rare that I can just "plug in" to a movie and follow it properly. I have the same problem when I read a book (fact or fiction) - if I don't force myself to actively take notes as I go along, my attention turns to my inner thoughts. I can't take books or movies in passively, I have to do something interactive or it won't work.

I haven't read much fiction, but what fiction I did read seemed to be a lot more lightweight than text books, so it didn't seem all that difficult. I got some enjoyment and value out of it, but it didn't become a habit to read fiction, so it can't have been that great. I've tried using audiobooks recently, which is better because I'm not trapped in a chair holding a physical book, and I can perform simple tasks while listening, so I'm less concerned at the waste of my time, but I've been dismayed by the poor impact the stories have had on me. The plots and the descriptive stuff seem weak and uninspiring, even with a lot of highly-acclaimed works.

I can often lose track of factual videos such as documentaries as well. Frankly the quality of those often seems very poor to me. I just saw a documentary about how they think homo sapiens and homo neanderthalis used to interact. I was unsure which group was which in their dramatisations, because (e.g.) they showed a clip of sapiens using spears while the voice-over was saying that neanderthalis used spears. I think a lot of stuff is just diluted rubbish with very little to say and even less evidence, mostly just computer graphics, mood music and a posh voice, presentation over content, so it's probably not surprising that my brain doesn't want to waste its time focussing on it. In a way it seems as if most books and movies were written for kids who are still wowed by things that became old hat for me a long time ago.

I love reading fiction, always have. I never really had any problems relating to the characters. In fact, I used to relate more to fictional characters than to real ones, because they seemed more emotional and shy, whereas people in real life just seemed to be having a grand old time with everything. I know that other people have problems too, but it's hard for me to know what they're feeling if they're not expressing it overtly.

i dont like tv or fiction books because they sweeten reality and make people much nicer than in reality, and aspies dont like sugarcoating. we want the blunt truth.

also, i cant relate to the things nt actresses and actors are going through. they feel bad because they're not accepted, someone new in town and has no friends. i dont care much for friends or being accepted. and the things that bother me dont bother them in the slightest. they dont deal with the same issues i do.

that's why i dont like fiction.

I don't have much trouble relating to people and TV shows and films. Most of my social problems comes from attention deficits, not emotional disconnection.

I can't read fiction because I cannot keep track of the characters and the plots confuse me. Also my near total inability to understand figures of speech, emotions and nuances don't help either.

I have 131 textbooks in my study room and I am happy with them.

Documentaries are good.

I can watch some sci-fi films or any films about something I can strongly relate to (ones about autism, and also "A Beautiful Mind" as I have psychosis myself). But other films, I get confused and cannot enjoy them.