Lack of feelings towards people.

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Hello

I am wondering if you guys have the same as I do. Basically I don't care about people, with the exceptions of my sisters and my mum. I used to care about my "step mum" (was never married to my dad (split up at before I was 10) but saw after), sadly she died of cancer. I don't care about my dad, especially after he had a brain aneurysm, when I said goodbye.

My nan from my mums side is apart of the family now after some 18 years away. I am 26 and she has been apart of our lives again for a few years. I feel as if I could wish her to switch places with my "real" nan, then I would in a heart beat. My nan on my dads side was the opposite and done everything she could to be apart of our lives, even traveling many miles via bus to meet us after school with my mum just to see how our day was.

Since my "step mum" passed away back in 2013 after 2 years fighting liver, kidney, lung and thyroid cancers, I have found my self to think of my nan who is no longer with us.

Anyway, I feel that I don't care about people and would quite happily live without them in my live, including my dad and my nan, but I want someone to share my live with (a girl friend) but don't think I can commit to a relationship where I am meant to care about them.

If your in a relationship, and find that you don't really care about people, what do you do to make it work?

Does anyone else find it hard to care about people?

I'm quite similar. I care about my immediate family (although I don't show it), but not really caring to people in general. I probably care a lot more about animals than people.

Same, I have 5 cats and 1 labrador, who I care and love way more than anything else.

I don't think it's a good idea to be in a committed relationship with someone you can't care about. It's not going to work and you wouldn't be happy.

I can only truly care about my parents and sisters because I know they care about me and I can trust them. I don't think I would ever be able to feel in that way towards anyone else. When I was not well physically/mentally, the only people that were truly worried about me were my parents and sisters. Other people trivialized my serious health (and other) problems. That's when I realized that ultimately no one could possibly ever care about me except my parents and sisters. You get to know who truly cares about you when your life is not going well. When I know people are like that, I couldn't possibly care about them.

Caring about people - and showing it - is fraught with difficulties. Most (but by no means all) of us can take it for granted that our parents care for us, but beyond that it's a somewhat grey area. It rather depends on what you mean by 'care'. I am able to care about people in a general way, in that I don't like to see suffering, but this is tempered by the fact that in most cases I can do little to ease their pain. On a number of occasions I have cared deeply about someone but ultimately this wasn't reciprocated, so I am now more circumspect about showing that I care. It rather depends whether you expect caring to be mutual or if you are happy to care about someone without them caring about you.

I have never been in a position to care about someone else that would or could care about me.

I do care about my 5 cats deeply and my dog deeply although I hate all other dogs.

I want to share my life with someone and start my own family (I want at least 8 children …)

I care about people. I don't want to be isolated.

When my nan went on holiday, I was extremely isolated I saw nobody as my mum went with her to look after her. I live with my mum, and she is my lifeline, without her I can't get food in, I can't go out at all (I have physical difficulties also).

This is another reason why I want a girl friend in my life, so I can meet new people and get out more.

Short answer: I once cared too much.... (I think it is better to reserve to myself the longer and more elaborated written thoughts to myself)

No.

No.


Nooooooo.

I think you do have feelings for other people. It's just that you have trouble coping with loss and separation, so you isolate yourself from others. At the same time you are craving for a girlfriend, but it's easier to pretend that this is due to physical well being more than the spiritual connection to another human being.
I think that you are just going through a phase. At some point in time you will meet someone and settle down and develop deep feelings for that person.

I feel like I have a very weak connection to others.
I care, but I don't think it goes very deep at all.
Even with those closest to me.

I like the idea of caring about people. I suppose there are some people I care about fairly deeply. But, overall, I guess I'm pretty self-centered and have felt betrayed and burnt when I have cared too much. I love my little doggie though.

I don't connect and care about other people that much. Not to say that I can't, but that it's rare. My definition of caring might differ a bit than others also, I guess. I think of it more as a selfless thing (caring about their well-being, caring about how they are, and caring about what's going on in their life for reasons other than "just knowing") and not just liking a person. I'm self-absorbed when it comes to most things

I can like somebody even a great deal and typically enjoy their company, but at the end of the day I still don't usually *care* about them. By that I mean that they could drop off the face of the Earth as far as it concerns me and I would be unlikely to be bothered by the thought of never seeing/talking to them again. Even when it comes to immediate family, I don't have that whole unconditional love thing for them. My mother is probably the only one I feel any real attachment to, honestly. I think I'd be upset if any of my friends or family died, but also that it would have more to do with the fact that I find death to be devastating and less to do with the person themselves.

All of that said, there have been different points in my life where I have become very attached to others and sometimes in those situations I have genuinely cared about the person. I've gotten bit in the ass each time, though, so I'm rather content avoiding it in the future as of now. Like the person above, loooooove my dog and their companionship is plenty for me.

(Typing this makes me feel like an awful person lol)

No, I do not think that by typing that makes you an awful person nor anybody else who happens to be like that. I think that I am going to try to add that, I myself have never "conneccted" with anybody....At least not with someone real and alive, just fictional characters. Since I ever knew about that concept- It used to greatly worry me until recently....I still wonder if there were someone somehow similar to myself, if that "connection" could happen, or understanding me.....

I have found myself to only care about 3 people, my sisters and my mum.

I wouldnt mind if everyone else on this earth disappears, but I do want to have children, but to have children I need a girl friend/wife.