People not taking Asperger's seriously?

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Have you ever felt like people don't take your Asperger's diagnosis seriously? It seems as if people don't really understand what you're talking about when you explain it to them. I feel that way quite often. I've tried to explain I have trouble with social skills, yet I still get rejected by people because of that. Just because I have normal cognitive function doesn't mean I can tell how you're feeling all the time.

I just get frustrated by this kind of stuff.

i've never explained it or even mentioned it to somebody but i can see why they would react like that or not get it as it's an 'invisible' disorder so to speak.. they don't see anything wrong on the outside so they just assume ur a bit shy or introverted or even rude. it's a complex disorder though only us, experts, and maybe ppl close to us will realistically have a good idea of what's going on when it comes to our brains.

Normal people suck. That's all there is to it.

I get a similar reaction from people; I say Asperger's and they have no idea what I'm talking about. These days I mostly just say I have autism, because most people at least understand that to be a social disability of some sort.

I think you're goofy in a groovy sense.

What if most people are more concerned with how they can manipulate you socially/emotionally?
If they think they may have trouble figuring you out or getting what they want from you, then they may often choose to just avoid you.

If you think about it, most of the common manipulation strategies do not work well, or efficiently, on us.
This would force people to have to think outside their box, and that may be asking a lot of people who may prefer to not have to think at all.
Their normal social interaction is mostly intuitive for them, and so requires minimal thinking.

You know, this "people" could be me. A lot of people don't take anything seriously. It's nothing personal of course. It's just they're scatter brained, have trouble focusing and pay attention to what others say. Beside, what would be a proper response of "taking it seriously"? I'm not teasing you, I really want to know. I never know what to say when people tell me their health issues or personal troubles. You can't say "Ya I've got that, too" or "That's nice."

I suppose if a person is not obviously debilitated or impaired in some way that is clearly visible to everyone and is able to at least on the surface live what appears like a relatively normal life- some people might think, "What's wrong with you?"

It's more them stereotyping me, belittling my struggles, having an ignorant stance on what it is to begin with, mostly them placing an inferiority complex on me as a result.. but I do get the "oh, you don't seem autistic" card played on me often and it is very annoying.

Psychological explanations doesn´t work, so I think, that if the questions ever comes up again between me and my friends, I´ll reply: "You know, - things I do, or say, or don´t pull off sometimes baffles you and leave you wondering - maybe even irritated.....well, that´s aspergers. Otherwise I´m exactly like anybody else".

Just don't tell people you have Aspergers. Just fake it and pretend to be social even if you're not.

The thing is that we're seen as normal to untrained people. Most people can't spot out someone with what we have and say, that person is autistic. Although many people with Aspergers do come off as either nerdy, rude, or uninterested.

The truth is, I know a lot of people with Aspergers who are disliked by neurotypicals their own age. This is especially the case when you're in your teenage years. I work with a couple of guys at a restaurant and one of them has Aspergers and I overheard some guys saying that he (the guy with aspergers) is the biggest a hole and dweeb ever, I hope his car runs off the road and he doesn't show up for work. So yah, a lot of aspies do come off as socially inept a-holes. This is why you cant stay stupid s**t and pretend you're not interested. You have to smile and fake it if you have to because if you don't get along with your coworkers or peers, you're going to have a harder time. Just act normal in front of your neurotypical peers that you barely know.

But, at least, you're nice!

I've learned to take "being weird" in my stride.