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elliot87
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01 Mar 2015, 12:49 am

my general social skills aren't that great but I'm really good at messing with people who cross me :ninja:

anyone else got that?



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01 Mar 2015, 12:58 am

Could you be more specific/give some examples?



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01 Mar 2015, 1:14 am

nah :P



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01 Mar 2015, 2:29 am

Do you mean in a verbal way, or some other way.

I've gotten on people's nerves before with the way I talk at times.

example wrote:
coworker (cw): It's been a really slow morning
me: No it hasn't. The speed of time doesn't change
cw: I mean the cars haven't been coming in fast
me: Well that's entirely dependent on how fast the customers drive them
cw: No, I mean we haven't had many cars in check-in
me: that's because the customers haven't brought them back yet

It continued on like that for a while; I don't remember the rest of the conversation.

I did it on purpose in that example because that particular coworker had been rather irritating.
I don't even have to try though, because it's apparently just the default way my brain works when I don't try to act NT (or am not able to due to mental exhaustion, certain emotional states, etc).



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01 Mar 2015, 2:39 am

elliot87 wrote:
nah :P


Good example?


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01 Mar 2015, 4:49 pm

If someone is rude to me I'm good at putting them down.



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01 Mar 2015, 5:02 pm

And I do it passive aggressively



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01 Mar 2015, 7:13 pm

We are not impressed.



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01 Mar 2015, 7:27 pm

It is a worthwhile skill to know how to defend one's self and keep the bullies away. But taking personal pleasure in hurting someone is not an autistic trait. It is a sociopathic trait and I want no part of it.


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01 Mar 2015, 7:31 pm

If I could trade. my skills of hurting people for better social skills, I would



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01 Mar 2015, 7:46 pm

while it is part of me I don't have to listen to it anymore.

I found it pretty offensive fnord when you said I might not be an aspie. I was diagnosed an aspie at 8 years old. But I didn't attack you. I shrugged it Off. I Know better the days



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01 Mar 2015, 8:05 pm

elliot87 wrote:
If I could trade. my skills of hurting people for better social skills, I would


It's not either/or. Even if you have a skill at that, you don't need to use it, and it's best not to. With or without better social skills, don't become the bad guy.

elliot87 wrote:
while it is part of me I don't have to listen to it anymore.


Good. Don't.

elliot87 wrote:
I found it pretty offensive fnord when you said I might not be an aspie. I was diagnosed an aspie at 8 years old. But I didn't attack you. I shrugged it Off. I Know better the days


Actually he didn't say you're not an Aspie. He said he wasn't impressed. It was R2D2 who said you're acting like a sociopath, and that it's not a positive thing. He was urging you to not use this "skill" you say you have, which is really just being mean.

You were getting friendly advice from a potential friend. You weren't being attacked.


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01 Mar 2015, 8:07 pm

elliot87 wrote:
... I found it pretty offensive fnord when you said I might not be an aspie...
Evidence, please?

I have no respect at all for liars.



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01 Mar 2015, 8:08 pm

Refrain from feeding the troll

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01 Mar 2015, 8:11 pm

But I'm bored, Sonic!

If there was a cooking show on right now, I'd be watching that instead.



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