Stepping back and starting over

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How can you start over in the middle of life (essentially)?

I just feel quite overwhelmed and want an opportunity to be able to start-over, and by that I mean just regress and hide away from everyone (when I know I can't)

I want to be able to undo knowing people, to eliminate this social/ethical obligation to talk to them and other stuff. Undo the relationship I built with others and just be alone. I just want to shut down and be alone for a week or two or more.

Everything just came crashing down because I thought I was moving forward really well. But it seems like I've been draining my reserve of energy and after some 'flash of lightning' type moment, I did something wrong and I just need time to recover.

I just don't know how do I just ignore everyone as if they don't exist. I know it is wrong to do so. Please respond fast...

(Save the welcoming for others, I forgot my password on my other account)

This is an excellent question. It has to feel frustrating and difficult to know that you need something (such as time alone in this case) and feel as if it would be hard to obtain this need. Although everyone is different...here is how I've approached this in a way that worked relatively well. Announced (be it via email, phone, or so on) that I needed to go on a quiet "sabbatical" of sorts.

So one might say that they need some alone time to recharge, and perhaps meditate for an indefinite amount of time to get the rest and peace of mind that they need and want. This way people may be less inclined to believe that one's absence has anything to do with something that they have brought on (i.e.,less likely to take it personal when disappearing for a bit) but gain a better understanding that the individual merely needs time to oneself in a quiet and calm setting. Personally,when I've done something similar to this, have clearly announced that in order for me to feel normalish again...that this means there will be no responses to emails, social media sites, phone calls, texts, or knocks on the door. And that my particular wish is to not have any attempts of contact from them to me, until an announcement is made that my sabbatical is over.

I find that the key to this is verbalizing my needs and feelings. When I communicate, it tends to be a smoother process. My hope is that you find something that works best for your situation and circumstances.

It's called a vacation.. or a staycation if you don't go anywhere.

Just tell people you'll be unreachable for the next two weeks & do whatever the F you want to.

Sleep in, take long hot baths, meditate, go for a run, read a book, paint a picture - whatever - it's your time; recharge however you need to.

Then get back to life again after a couple weeks of solitude.

Seems like a fairly simple process.. no?

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