When teachers shout at you, does it trigger a meltdown?

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Yesterday, I had sensory overload in class because the light was intense, there was to much noise and I was in a state of confusion due to the sudden test. . I wasn't aware that there was a test, so I put my hand up to tell the teacher I was away and unaware of the incoming test.. The teacher then proceeded to shout at me "why are people not revising the things I tell them to, we are not year 7 and quite frankly it sounds like an excuse" - I was mortified.. I didn't know the topics, because I felt slightly intimidated I said I would take the test anyway.

I felt slightly humiliated and with all of the build up from the sensory overload already, I was on the verge of a meltdown.. And my kind of meltdown consists of uncontrollable crying , so I was trying my best to internalise it. After class, I had the worst meltdown in months, I had to go home because it was that bad.

Have you guys ever had meltdowns triggered by an intimidating teacher?

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I used to do the burst into random unstoppable tears at school thing on occasion. I'm currently waiting for an assessment for Aspergers so I can't 100% say that's the reason why right now, but I remember having similar situations.

I remember one English lesson out teacher getting very angry because the majority of the class hadn't done the homework- I hadn't really done it either because it was during a time where we had loads of homework and exams approaching and I was very stressed, also it was supposedly one of those pieces that wasn't hand in and so you could bluff through with enough round-a-bout knowledge which was my usual tactic if I hadn't finished in time. But this time the teacher was furious at how students kept not doing homework and told us she was going to get the head of year to talk to us since exams were approaching and school had this very - it's your own fault if you fail if you haven't done the work- attitude. I started sobbing saying how I couldn't find my work- which I felt bad for because it was a lie since my work was pretty much the title on a piece of paper with maybe one of two questions complete- but I was at that point where I just didn't know how to handle being told off and I couldn't do it and I just started crying uncontrollably.

Luckily my English teacher knew me quite well because her classroom was our form room and she'd let me stay inside and read during lunch. She let me leave with a friend, and the head of year came to check I was okay after she'd spoken to the class and the teacher met with me at the end of the lesson to assure me it wasn't me she was mad at because she knew I always did the work. (I think it was more I always honestly tried whereas some in the class really didn't).

But through out school I did have various random- can't cope sudden tears- moments, and did once run out a lesson when they played some high notes.

I always found it happened kind of randomly, as far as I could understand, but I almost always dissolved into tears if I was spoken to sharply or told off. Which, personally, I found very annoying because I actually don't cry often. Usually I'm very calm in response to things because I have a tendency to switch off emotions, but in the kind of situation you described I would have been exactly the same.

If your teacher doesn't know about some of the issues you can have it might be good to have a conversation or write a letter just detailing some of the things that can cause difficulty and giving it to a year head/pastoral care person.

I hope that teacher gets nicer.

I used to get tearful after personally being told off by the teacher. But I grew out of it when I was around 9, and by the time I was at the secondary school I grew a much thicker skin when it came to teachers. But when I was really small (under 8 ), I had trouble catching up with the other children, and my mind would often drift off into a vivid daydream, and I just couldn't focus. Then suddenly my daydream would be disrupted by the teacher leaning over my shoulder scolding me in a tone of voice I knew too well, and I then would start sobbing. The teacher would then walk away, in a way as if to say ''go ahead and cry, see if I care!'' Yes, I was very good with reading body language and tone of voice.

But as I got older the teachers got nicer, or unless I had learnt to pay attention a bit more, I don't know. I wish I had of been diagnosed with ADHD, then maybe the teachers might have expected me to have trouble paying attention.

Yep. Usual shtuff: I was the victim in many classes while the teacher/instructor is turned away. Only to be caught moving to another seat or defending myself when they turn back. I was the perpetrator. Happened sometimes.

I hated those teachers/instructors.

I suppose I'm an old man now - but I can recall having some serious reactions like that when I was young. Even as an adult when I had been cruelly criticized or humiliated in a work situation by a more senior person - I have completely fallen to pieces on occasions. Fortunately, it has been while since that happened.

I never liked to be yelled at (who does?) but it never put me in a meltdown, I would get sad afterwards or upset and sometimes cry.

If anybody shouts at me, I dwell on it for a while. I also feel upset on the verge of tears. It also takes me a while to start trusting that person, again.

No teacher would have ever dared yell at me.

At elementary, I usually don't mind. At high school, slight noises are making me yell.

Right now, not anymore regardless who it is. I'm practically tolerant to many things. There's no yelling ever since I moved schools at high school for the last time.

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Even though I go to a school for asd kids, the lighting and noise will trigger a sensory meltdown.

I wouldn't be surprised if I had a few meltdowns triggered at least partially by getting scolded by a teacher during my public school years. Goodness, I hated public school, and in a lot of ways I think it did more to screw me up as a person than it did to help me. I kind of wish my parents gave more of a s**t and put more effort into trying to get me homeschooled. I would have ended up maladjusted to society either way, just with the latter at least I may have grown up to be a more positive person.

I don't think I ever did but I just tuned out a lot in school

I used to melt down at school a lot but it usually wasn't the teachers. I remember in 6th grade we we studying slavery and the vivid descriptions of conditions on slave ships set me off.

I stood up and screamed that I didn't care what happened 100 years ago. (a lie, I was trying to still look tough.) Then I walked out of the room and left the school. I walked to the park two blocks away. The cops found me and took me back to school.

When people yell I tend to shut down rather than melt down.

People, adults or kids yelling at me used to stress me out, and that sometimes led to melt downs when I was young. I had a lot of trouble with meltdowns as a child, teen, and young adult. Once I was an adult they gradually lessened in frequency when in the outside world, but my family was still a big source of them, as dealing with them has always been very stressful for me. Almost ten years ago I finally was able to live alone. This has reduced the stress levels a lot for me. That, plus the reduced contact with my family has drastically reduced the family caused meltdowns. I am better able to handle being with them, as I will be going home after visiting them, or if they are here, they will be going home after visiting me.