Is it ok for an autistic person to like parties?

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I just went to my cousin's wedding ( it was one of the first big events that I went to in a while)and It was actually fun the music while loud and and it was too bright and needing my headphones all the time it was kind of stimulating and fun to dance a little. Does anyone feel the same way?

Of course it is, Jenny. You have to find some enjoyment in life, right?

You're a human being as well as an autistic person. Every human being has the capacity to enjoy one's self. Even extremely low-functioning autistic people are able to enjoy themselves (though they might enjoy themselves in their "own little world").

If somebody tells you otherwise, they're wrong.

I'm glad you enjoyed the wedding.

The title of this thread is an oddly phrased question: "Is it OK for an autistic person to like parties?".

What are you really asking?

Obviously there is nothing "wrong" (morally, or etiquette wise, or whatever) with an "autistic person enjoying a party". Its good that you enjoy it.

Is this a "diagnostic" question?

I suspect that what you really mean is "does the fact that I like parties show that I am not really autistic"?

My answer to that would be "the good news is 'no', the bad news is 'no'". It shows that despite your autism you have a certain amount of NT abilities to interact and socialize than be further developed. And thats a good thing. And you can build on that to further improve your functioning in the world. But it doesnt actually disprove that you're an autistic. Or not by itself anyway.

Sorry.

I think it's perfectly fine to like parties! As naturalplastic said, it's good that you have some NT abilities and are able to function in situations with lots of sensory input. I used to like parties! I think it's great that you've found something else you enjoy, Jen.

I didn't know it was a crime for a autistic person to like parties.

Everyone on the spectrum is different. I knew someone with it who went to concerts and those are sure loud as hell but he used ear plugs. I have another aspie friend who went to some wrestling match and another aspie tried to tell him he didn't have it just because he went there and he blocked him. First of all my aspie friend has hearing loss so he can just simply turn down his hearing aid or take it out and bam volume has been turned down. I wonder how many people on the spectrum wish they can just turn down the volume whenever it's too loud for them. My friend also goes to parties and hangs out with people. Some may argue he is NT or borderline AS or BAP but he seemed pretty textbook as a kid but now not so much anymore. His symptoms are still there and people can still tell but he still has acceptance.

I think it's a shame that people think they can assess someone based on their interests or where they go and believing in stereotypes about it or having a narrow definition.

I thought autistic people were supposed to sit alone in dimly lit rooms looking at books about trains?

It's absolutely okay to like parties. I just saw a very (intentionally) confusing graph that basically outlined how one's abilities vary greatly based on myriad circumstances (day, stress, Pete around sensory input, recent experiences, perceived supports available, etc.)

It's also okay to not like parties, btw.

It's ALSO okay to like parties sometimes and to not like them at different times.

I like parties. Sure, the socializing is not always enjoyable, but I like the food, and the music, and the excitement of a special event. Every autistic person is different, and we don't have to show all the stereotypical traits of autism.

Of course

It's true that a majority of autistic people don't go to parties. But it's NOT based on a matter of whether it's right or wrong to do so, but rather an issue of sensory comfort and social acceptance. Point being, if you like going to a party, then by all means, do so.

i never go to familly parties whether it is a wedding or a funeral, including my own father's funerals.
as a result, noone bother to send me invitation cards anymore when a familly venue arises;
when i was a teenage i would dream about going to clubs, as everyone that age was excited about it, it seemed stunning things were to take place in dancing clubs...but when i finally was in age to sneak in i couldn't grasp what was the frenzy about: horrible loud music, tobacco stench all over my clothes, uneven breathing in a cloud of smoke, people getting drunk, violent and rude, the sexual admosphere....
i enjoy going to classical concerts where the crowd is polite, or theater, but even there i feel pressurized by the crowd and dizzy as soon as find myself into the strem of souls; i live as soon as i can the place at the concert's end, in straight line.
nowaday i've abandonned the idear of going to anywhere a crowd' standing.
of course that feelling' tempered when i'm on metylphenidate, i can deal with "that thing" making a freack of I.
I like parties, I like people but I can't stand either. how wretched a life.

I've been to parties I've liked before. Usually they're low key like less than 10 people, although those will wear me out. I've had fun at bigger parties, but the recuperation time afterwards was horrendous (like multiple days of recovery), and I find myself frequently having to migrate to the spots that have the least amount of people in them just to avoid melting down. I feel like I go into a survival mode at those, but you can witness fun things like a live band or people just doing stupid albeit entertaining things. I just have to be ready for the high cost of these.

I used to love parties when I was a child. I got a little nervous when getting ready, but once I got there I really enjoyed it and didn't want to go home. I felt more accepted and noticed at parties than I did in school. The other kids included me and wanted me to dance or play or join in party games with them, which I did. I do wish that the kids learnt that when I am included, I feel much happier and more socially motivated and less anxious. But as soon as we were at school, I was suddenly the quiet, lonely one again.

I like parties. If it is with people I like (and with my type of humor), and if it is not very crowded. Some problems I have, is f.ex. if I go to the bathroom and get back to find that my seat is taken. Who else can I sit with? Some alcohol will make this easier. I may not gain more social skills, but I do not care that I don't have them :p I also have trouble hearing if there is loud music, so I must speak one-on-one, or seek to the kitchen or the smoking crowd outside. And if I sit with a quiet person and the other person who lead the talk is getting up, I'm like (in my head); "don't leave me alone with this person!! ! What will we talk about??". I usually have a lot of fun at parties (but need some drinks), but need some days before I can do something very social again

Actually, its a direct violation of union rules for an Autistic to enjoy a party. You do that again and you could have your diagnosis revoked.

I'm an aspie and I enjoy parties like that.