Thanking society

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Thank you for making me a freak. Thank you for taking the best years of my life. Thank you for stigmatizing, bullying, propagating knowledge of my condition, and wholly belittling me as a human being. Thank you for denying me prom. Thank you for denying me a brief respite from my world that you have all soiled. Some might say I'm immature but I'm not the only one. The words fa***t, weirdo, aspergers ring through my head every single day. Commercials make me in to a label. I'm a social ret*d best to be introduced at parties. I'm a college student studying chemical engineering not a f*****g halfwit. I made it here all by lonesome and I have no one to thank. Not my religitard fundie bimbo mother, my pedophile of a father, my teachers, or even the people who think they're my friends. You all can blow me. f**k this sight and f**k neurotypicals

Nice rant, I can say I share some of those feelings....though I do not think all neurotypicals are a negative factor in my life, but much of the time they are the ones prone to the conditioning of society, not always though and so in a round about way...well many of them aren't helping the situation, but many also are not actively making it worse....I never had anyone make fun of me for having aspergers(also was not diagnosed till adulthood), but I did get called ret*d, a freak, weird, and even 'psychopath'. And parties...well, not all they are cut out to be I think its more fun to go camping or have a smaller gathering of people.

I'm too freaky smart for anyone to call me ret*d or a halfwit or anything like that. At the same time, they find me creepy and unnatural. I think that if I was offered a choice between having charisma and having intelligence, I might have to choose charisma just to be sure of my future in this social world.

Thank you for not taking ANY personal responsibility for yourself or your situation & perpetuating stereotypes about ASD people blaming everyone and everything else for their shortfalls. It does myself and the rest of us a great service!

The part that set me off about your rant was the "Thank you for denying me prom." bit. Did you not attend? If you didn't, that's your choice - not likely something you were denied by society. For the record, my twin brother chose not to attend ours. I attended with my high school best friend who's girlfriend went to a different school and wasn't allowed to go. We split a limo with a couple of other friends who were dating each other that I also worked with at my part time job. I didn't have a date (and wasn't out as gay in high school, anyways.) & despite my anxiety, I still went and made the most of the evening - dressed up in a tux for dinner and all. Some things are completely a matter of personal choice, not imposed by outside forces to be lashed out at and blamed for whatever you don't like about yourself.

This might have been better to post in The Haven.

I'm not the only one. This is a build up from 19 years of shear pain. The way society approaches us socially is absolutely barbaric. Stop being an Uncle Tom and stop listening to the nonsense they feed you. Anyone whose been this angry back me up

Have you ever considered that it's your perceptions that upset you so?

You've stated right here that you're angry. Clearly it's you that's angry, not society.

Perhaps you'd do yourself some good by approaching your thoughts on the matter from an entirely different perspective.

Gee, aren't we a mite bit bitchy. If you don't like this site, then why the f!ck are you even posting here?

Don't even start on me, because I'm in a bitchier mood than you. I almost got in the middle of a family fight. I gave the one participant fair warning: if I get stuck in the middle of a fight between you and your brothers, I'll have all your f!cking arses in Jail so fast none of you will know which end is up.

I understand what you mean, I feel what you are coming from and I know you were saying "fck this site" in the moment as a way to deal with your own self hatrid. Did you know tyler the creator just put out a song and one of the lyrics is "so special youd think i was autistic", i am all for not politically correct and freedom of thought/expression but that particular line encapsulates the exact reason why i do not tell people i am an aspie or have autism because I DONT THINK IM SPECIAL, I think I am the same as everyone else and I dont feel the ostracized filter everyone sees me as, "Poor him. Hes a ret*d. He cant relate." That can be incredibly frustrating, we shouldnt even have to act to be treated the same as neurotypicals cause we all should be equally "normal"

I hear you mang.

Ranting or venting is allowed here. Sometimes people need to vent as the first step towered taking responsibility. Goldfish as we have discussed before you come from a relatively accepting location. And you grew up in an era before Aspergers was as well known an as stigmatized as today in certain locations.

I have felt the same feelings.

But they will not help you get that engineering degree!

Once you get that degree, you will have more freedom to hang out with whomever you want to.

Yep...some neurotypicals could be total buttholes---but it's no reflection on you. You have to transcend the buttholes by making yourself fly OVER the buttholes.

You should read about Temple Grandin. She had to deal with buttholes in order to get her inventions on the market. She is a proudly autistic person who has made something of herself, despite the buttholes. She had to modify herself somewhat--but she's still proudly autistic. I know she constantly speaks around the country. She probably speaks in many other countries, too.

What happened that has made you so angry?

Bleh...

Why f**k this site?

You get it, and that is very rare.
Just try not to shoot up any innocent people.

Dude, society didn't make you a freak, autism did that and that's just the luck of the draw. If you don't want people giving you grief about that label, don't tell them about it. As you've seen, they just come up with different ones.

Yes, people in general are dimwitted D-Bags, prone to selfishness and cruelty, and autistic individuals in particular have been the victims of their bullying, intolerance and condescension for as long as the human species has been walking upright - but we're not the only ones - plenty of other minorities and fringe dwellers have taken the same abuse, and by and large, survived it. Be glad you're not a German Jew living in the 1930s.

At least you understand why these things happen to you. Try growing up without that autistic label and being told your entire life that all these things are YOUR FAULT. That if you'd just try harder to be normal, people would treat you better and things would go your way, but you don't because you're a lazy slacker. In a society that's never heard of autism, you'd believe them, because you would have no other explanation.

Millions before you have had exactly that experience.

Giving yourself an ulcer playing Mister Furious isn't going to solve anything. You can't cure your autism, but you can still make a decent life for yourself. Don't blame society for your choice to miss a prom. I chose not to go because I thought it was a stupid social ritual and I hate crowds, but nobody tied me to a chair and prevented me from going. Forty years later, I still don't regret the decision. It was a meaningless one-evening event and missing it hasn't affected my life one whit.

The "best years of your life," - puh-leeze. The only people who can honestly say their teen years were their best, are the jocks who shoot their wad in their glory days on the field, and never accomplish anything else the rest of their lives. Your best years will be the ones that come after you stop feeling sorry for yourself and blaming everybody else in the world for everything you don't have, plaster a pleasant look on your face, and decide to make the best of what you've got.

When you channel that energy into something more positive than anger, it will eventually start to work in your favor. Usually that happens just about the time you're convinced it's never going to happen.