Adult disrespecting me?

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What should I do when a adult treats me with disrespect?

It depends on the adult, what exactly they're doing, and how frequently you have to interact with them. More information would help.

For example:
A teacher tells me that the way I say everything is very annoying.
Is happens maybe a few times a month?

If this was me, now, I'd go to the teacher after class, mobile phone in pocket and recording the conversation, and very politely explain that saying "the way you say everything is very annoying" does not help you understand what exactly the perceived problem is, and would he or she kindly explain what exactly she found annoying and what exactly he/she would like you to do about it.

Having said that, at age 15 I would certainly not have had the guts to do that, or the mental strength to stay polite and in control of the situation - so maybe better bring someone along for emotional support and as a witness?

Also, did the teacher say this in front of the whole class? If so, that makes it a lot worse in my opinion, and if you're recording the conversation you might as well get an admission of that fact on the record as well.

There is no point speaking to the teacher about this unless you feel interested in what she/he has to say. In other words, unless you respect the teacher, he she is the boss, you have to go along some, but why he/she feels as they do about you should only matter if you care what they think and caring what someone you don't respect thinks too much goes nowhere good.

I don't like that. It's demeaning and discouraging.
Maybe you could look into working something out with the teacher by way of another adult.
Either a school counselor or a parent teacher meeting.

If an adult tries to address me as if I were a mentally challenged child then I will mimic one and manipulate them.

If someone is speaking rudely to you, I'd do the opposite--be unnaturally polite, to the point where it's unnatural.

That should throw them off their guard.

Vague criticism like "everything you say is annoying" is worse than useless. Criticism has to be specific to do any good. I'd be tempted to ask for specifics.