How do I stop this stupid quirk?

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When I'm cuddling up with my boyfriend I keep involuntarily prodding him and poking him every now and again. He's got such a nice body, and when I'm sitting with him I sometimes have an urge to gently press my hand into his nice muscly chest or his stomach. It's just a form of affection with me, but he gets annoyed. Sometimes I don't realise I've done it, and I suddenly find him saying ''will you stop prodding me?'' and it kind of makes me jump because I think ''oh...oh, sorry, I didn't realise I was doing it...''

I don't mean to annoy him. I just forget myself, and I am a very affectionate person. Also I have trouble sitting still or focusing on stuff, so sometimes I like to fiddle or squeeze something, and he's so pleasurable to kind of ''play'' with. I would get a little teddy bear or some other toy to fiddle with and squeeze, but he might think I'm babyish.

How can I get myself out of this annoying habit? It's an unusual quirk, because I don't think there are many girls out there who enjoy poking and squeezing their boyfriend as an affectionate bond. Or is it not that much of a big deal in principle, but is something just my boyfriend gets annoyed with? I am aware that everybody's different, and some people may like something while others may not.

Have you tried telling him why you are doing it?

I too have this quirk ( and other similar quirks ) and I think it is cute and not stupid. My husband finds it strange but is not put off by this. My hubby too has his quirks, but not this. Without this quirk, I won't be able to display or express my love to him. I would be incomplete without it. So, I never tried to stop it. But if for some reason my hubby does not like it, it would be really difficult for me to get along with him because I need to be myself with the man I love. Fortunately, my husband understands my need to be myself and most of the time, he does not pay any attention to it. For instance , he would be reading a book, playing computer games and I would do these quirks with him, he would draw me closer and smile at me and then go back to his book/game -he is not also distracted by it.
Yes, you are right -some people may like something and others may not. It is a tricky situation. But can you live without this quirk ? Can you just stop it like that ? Is it a central part of who you are ?
The last question is very important-if it is not a central part of what makes you, then only you can stop it. Maybe try squeezing his palm/hands rather than other body parts when you are inclined to do so,- maybe that would be less irritating /intrusive to him.

It's actually quite normal for a woman to do what you do. He might have slight sensory issues.

I wouldn't mind it if a woman who would be that affectionate with me.

Yeah.

If he heard you say that you do it because "you're so hott" it...he might be less annoyed IM humble opinion.

Also: caress instead of prod-when the urge hits. That might make things go smoother.