Introversion and Self Deprecation

Post Reply New Topic

I was just wondering on my way home from college today, if there is a link between introversion and self deprecation. Personally speeking I am a very introverted person, as are most people here I'm sure. I also have the habit of downplaying any positive attributes I may (or may not) have. I am well aware of this, but I was just wondering if the reason why I am so quite and introverted is because I am aware that most of what I say is deprecating is some way. Any sense of humour that I have is also extremly stifiled because most of my jokes are at my own expense. Conversly most of the extraverted people I know are great at talking up their acheivments and there sense of humour is often at the expense of others (there is no real way of saying that without it being an insult is there - to any extraverts here; I mean no offense)

Could this also be why introverted people prefer to converse online, because the option always exists to go back are change what you said?
Anyone have any thoughts on this?

...I tend to depreciate myself .

I'm often self deprecating also. YEAH, I know! You wouldn't think it HERE! I'm also VERY introverted. Even if I am at a party and appear to be very gregarious, etc... it seems everyone knows better. 8-(

Steve

I had an imgainary "zine" when I was younger..I complied material for years but never published called SDM...."Self Deprecation Monthy"

Introversion can lead to heightened self-awareness. With this awareness comes the fodder needed to produce self-aggrandization or self-deprecation based on individual personality. Or both!

I'm really introverted and I don't really have low self-esteem as much anymore, but I used to feel that way. I still am lacking in confidence, but I like myself and my differentness. I think understanding myself better and knowing about AS helped that.

I find it easier to talk online especially on message boards probably because there isn't so much pressure on you to talk. I know when I'm talking face to face with people or on IM or chatrooms it becomes more overwhelming and I start realizing how much I suck at conversations.

Also it's much easier to get my thoughts out through writing. I don't really talk the way I write. In real life I hardly say anything.

Yes introverted and yes self depriciating with people I dont know well.

It's not surprising,given hpw many misunderstandings surround people with AS that we would learn to look inside for what is "wrong" with us(as well as seeing what is wrong with others)I found really young(grade school)that if I self-depriciated,I could divert teasing.....if I say it...I get the laugh,if someone else does,they get the laugh....I would follow it up with somethiing depriciating about the person who was trying to tease me....I am pretty good at sarcasm,which means...the tearing of flesh(by the way)If they were attacking me,I just saw it as self-defense.

One thing I hate is self-aggrandizing people. I try to be the exact opposite of that. I hate when people say, "I did this, I did that."

I tend to be both introverted and self-deprecating as well, as though I can't believe that people would think highly of me It's not all bad, though - I find I tend to try harder than most others in my endeavours, because I fear I won't do a good job, and then am pleasantly surprised when people say I've done a thorough job.

Hope that didn't sound too self-grandising

I suppose I can be a little self-deprecating from time to time, but a little modesty as a matter of common courtesy was simply how I was raised. The concept of self-esteem and self-confidence as an all-or-nothing thing strikes me as odd: I am quite confident when I am quite experienced or studied in a particular area, but if I know my skill is lacking in some area, I recognize the fact. I don't beat myself up for it, but having a realistic idea of one's talents and deficits is really helpful. This is why I don't understand why people are attracted to people displaying an all-pervasive self-confidence.

Yes, I am introverted, introspective and alas, my self esteem is incredibly low so I am very self deprecating. I have little confidence in my abilties, and even if I believe I do, I find it uncomfortable to speak well of them to others.