Patterns of speech

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So I'm a non diagnosed individual but I'm just interested in comparing any observed patterns in communication. Feel free to describe your patterns of communication in whatever way you see fit but I'm just interested and would like to compare and contrast.

As an example here are some things that I have observed about my own communication:

Speaking:
-I tend to have a very indirect way of explaining things, it takes me a long time to get to the point (if I ever get there)
-I tend to have a lot of breaks in speaking (a lot of "um"s)
-I sometimes am unable to think of a way to express something and then forget the point that I was originally trying to make. This happens more frequently when trying to describe internal experiences and perspective.

Writing:
-I feel like I can express myself better through writing but often spend a lot of time re-wording to try to make my point clearer and more easy to understand (though sometimes when I look back its still not as clear as I would like )
-I prefer to write in my own style... for example.. with a lot of dots in between parts of sentences where I would pause if I was speaking. Unfortunately this kind of writing is not always nice for other people to read (and it is certainly not appropriate for work and school so I try to avoid doing it unless I am just writing for myself)
-I frequently use brackets (too add in additional details that may or may not be important)

Listening:
-I sometimes pick up on a lot of detail and can recite what I've heard word for word, but this is generally only if I was listening for a certain piece of information then someone mentioned it
-I often try to follow what people are saying but sometimes it turns into sounds with no meaning
-Step by step verbal instructions are lost on me

Reading:
-Absorbing information through reading generally works very well unless I am under pressure to read something quickly or someone is waiting for input on what I am trying to read
-I can be thrown off of meaning because of a particular choice of words

There are no wrong answers here so write what you feel like writing about your experiences with communication.

Speaking: I like to speak fast and to the point, no telling stories, just the result.
Listening: I don't understand much of what people say to me, but usually what they say is not important.
Reading: I don't like reading in general, but I skim science papers to get information I need.
Writing: I hate writing.

Having dyspraxia noticeably affects my use of language. Repetitively I might say the wrong word several times. Or switch two words at the beginning and end. At times after I switch words, I'm aware...other times I have no clue.

OP, as for writing, reading and listening I am exactly like you.

Re speaking: As my awareness has grown, I have learned not to start every explanation with "Adam and Eve".
Before, I had to explain every angle of a case before presenting the matter, so I kind of lost people (like old Polonius ).
Now, I can be more straight to the point.
I thought in layers of verbal communication. Now I stick to one layer - meaning being very direct and simple, which goes well with being literal.
I have gained more control over my rambling tendencies.

One thing, I discovered lately: I illustrate with my hands - not just "french style", but, when I speak about a stream, I look at the floor and draw it with my hand. When I speak of shooting, I "do" it.
I wonder if that is an aspect of being literal or a sign of being a born actor

I think there are a lot of patterns and tendencies to speech and language that the speaker/writer can't observe within themselves. But I do a lot of the same things you do.
When I speak, I take long pauses to try to figure out what I'm saying. More often than not, I get interrupted because people think I'm done talking when I haven't even made my original point yet. I tend to do a lot of circular thinking while talking; when I'm expressing my point of view about something, I'm also thinking of the arguments to my point of view and how I could be wrong and how I can prove or disprove that I am right, and other opinions people could have about the same subject and how to prove or disprove their opinions. Since I can think much faster than I can speak, I tend to make my counterpoint or the argument against my opinion before I make my point. In my head, everything makes sense and is clear. When I try to speak, I get muddled and mixed up and a lot of what I end up saying isn't clear at all. I understand the concept in my head, but I have a hard time trying to figure out how to assign the right words to it so that other people understand. I wish I could just pull the picture out of my head and show it to them.
I write much more easily than I speak, and I read much more easily than I hear. I also can't take verbal instructions. I have to write them down. Even then, they often seem like a different language until I try to do them. It's like, "turn right, cat, rabbit, unicorn. At the troll, go platypus bear for six horses, and then turn goat." That makes about as much sense as verbal directions to me.
When people are talking, if I miss one word in the sentence, the rest turns into meaningless sounds. I find that I tend to listen to things but not understand them until I've had time to absorb, interpret and think about what was said. Often, I don't 'get it' and formulate a response until the next day.
When I'm reading, a bad or unclear word choice, or a misspelling or incorrect punctuation will throw me off track so much that I lose what I just read and have to go back a few paragraphs and try again, this time visually 'hopping' over the error so I can stay on track. And people wonder how I notice them so easily. Would you notice walls on your walking path that you had to stop, back up from, get a running start, and jump over to get around? Things are hard enough for me to comprehend when they're correct. When they're not correct, they're a muddy mess that quickly becomes more taxing than my time or effort are worth.
When people are talking to me, and they take a long time to get to their point, I tend to drift off and start thinking about something else, which causes me to miss their point or become totally uninterested in the conversation altogether, so that my only response is, "yep.... uh huh.... sure..." until they stop wagging their mouth flaps at me. Or until I ask a completely unrelated question that I've become interested in during my mind wanderings.
"Do you think animals would still need their fur in a warmer climate?" "What?" "Well, like cats. If you took a cat and put it on a tropical island, would its fur serve any functional purpose? I mean, they'd still want their whiskers because they use those to sense vibrations, but what about the fur on their backs?" "Um....I don't know...... maybe to keep from getting a sunburn?" "That makes sense. I'll bet a cat's skin would burn really easily in the sun. So, ok, yeah, I guess they would still need their fur."
See, that's a much more interesting conversation, right? Actually, come to think of it, I don't know of any animals that get sunburns except humans. Are there any animals that get sunburns? Lizards don't sunburn. Birds have feathers, but they're feet don't sunburn. Pigs don't sunburn, do they? Dolphins don't sunburn. What else is there that isn't covered by fur or feathers? I'm actually interested in this now... I should Google pigs and find out if they sunburn. If any animal does, it makes sense that they would. They have exposed skin that's sort of like a human's.