How to keep this strong fear from getting in my learning?

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I get worried when sites and blogs like this:http://www.autismsocietypgh.org/blog/the-case-for-guardianship/ say that autsitic will not do well without gaurdianship regardless of my abilities and they feel that people who believe that autistic people will fully be able to make indendent decisions from early intervention are blind. I refuse to believe in that and in fact this video backs me up: http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/segmen ... 67ed0006e2. In my view, I see Aspies and some autistics capable of making decisions and doing well without a gaurdian and that term HFA and LFA are useless.
However, as part of my OCD, the fear and the unneccesary stress is so strong and severe that it interferes with me learining about my subject, Biology. Sure, I can forget about the fear of people saying that autistics can't decide themselves. But here is the point, I fear that if I forget about that thought, I would eventually agree with those advocates later. And I do not want that to happen to me. So how do I manage that worry out of the way without losing my belief on that subject? And since this blog is filled with Aspies and autistics, if you have done well and made good decisions without a gaurdian tell me your expiriences to make my belief stronger and more comfortable focusing my mind on what I want and need to do?

Autism does not necessarily impair learning. One frequently has nothing to do with the other.

You have to not let your autism interfere with how you APPLY your learning to real-life situations.

But what I am talking about is the comorbid OCD. There has been a guy who dealt with the same thing except his obsessive fear with AIDS and HIV in the 1980s and it took over his life. I kind of starting to feel that same way. Specifically to tackle my problem, how do I DEAL with the fears is the problem. The OCD is the problem this way, not the autism.

I'm not an expert on OCD--but I've read in many places that one must confront the OCD directly--do things which run counter to your routine, and endure the anxiety which results from this departure from your routine.

If you have a compulsion, try to consciously avoid doing what you feel "compelled" to do, and endure the anxiety which results from this "avoidance."

You should try all this when you feel motivated to "treat yourself," so to speak.

As for the guy who feared HIV and AIDs, the solution was to identify, through research, "high risk" behaviors, and avoid like the plague those "high risk" behaviors.

I understand there are those who will think the above solutions are "simplistic." But I've benefited from my own advice. I used to be afraid of driving--until I was forced to drive on my own. This led to me obtaining my license very quickly.

You can only think one thought at a time. If you think something else, or nothing at all (meditation style), then you cannot be thinking about this particular fear - or any other undesirable intrusive thought, either.

I've read several books about thoughts & the power of positive thinking when it comes to success and money etc and they all pretty much preach the same universal truths. Be present and put something else in your mind, ideally whatever you're doing at the time in order to be truly fully present, and you won't be able to worry about this or anything else.

Sure, I've had a little support from family.. but I've managed to make OK decisions for myself. Graduated from business school when I was 19. Managed to find work and have an income. I've saved up some money and am saving towards a future business plan. I'm far from perfect and have made a lot of mistakes along the way, but I'm certainly not incapable of making decisions for myself. Some on the spectrum might not do so well w/o a guardian, but that definitely does not mean all.

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