I don't know how to focus or what to focus on

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23 Mar 2007, 5:46 pm

It's not that I have like ADD or anything. My life is just very non-structured, and I tend to prefer it that way, but it's a little too extreme.
I spent the past 6 hours mostly pouring over one thing... a forum thread in another forum about how I alienated a bunch of people.
Now I have 45 minutes before I might go to hear a lecture. Not really enough time to shave or do laundry or anything... when I get home, my day will be over.
But sometimes I can't get myself to do things. so I'm not sure what's possible.

I wish I had like... a list of things I could pick from... that I would actually be likely to want to do.
I can't even feed myself! I've been eating cereal all day! I don't have anyone to rely on. once in a while I go get frozen leftovers from my mom.

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23 Mar 2007, 5:50 pm

chaotic_descent wrote:

That sounds like me, but I think I have ADD.

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23 Mar 2007, 5:50 pm

If you been this way all your life, then it most likely is ADHD.

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23 Mar 2007, 5:52 pm

its the story of my life...as a result i make tons of lists of things to do...some of them are doenright rediculous...it does not keep me from hyperfocusing too much on the computer or wasting lots of time in general..but at least I have a grasp of what i want to to....

Oh yeah...and i am very much an ADDer (with some Aspie traits)

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23 Mar 2007, 5:59 pm

chaotic_descent wrote:

It's not that I have like ADD or anything.

Do not be surprised if you find out that you do infact have ADD. I'm 37 and heard for 20 plus years about all the hyper kids that had to be put on drugs but that was not me I was not hyper. But 6 months ago after alot of study on the subject I learned I do infact have inattentive ADD.

http://psychcentral.com/addquiz.htm

Just found this test I scored 89.

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23 Mar 2007, 6:08 pm

Erilyn wrote:

If you been this way all your life, then it most likely is ADHD.

Why ADHD and not ADD? I looked up ADHD on wikipedia and I don't have any of the stuff that would categorize me beyind ADD, if that.
If I have ADD, it's mild.
and besides, how does that help me NOW?
I mean... it's not that surprising that I turned out this way. I want to find some structure that I don't find too confining. I mean... I've confined myself in lots of other psychological ways that are strangling. I just... need to find... something... that works better. I think. I just don't know how.

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23 Mar 2007, 6:12 pm

TheMachine1 wrote:

chaotic_descent wrote:

It's not that I have like ADD or anything.

I got 61

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23 Mar 2007, 6:16 pm

You sound a lot like me and i think I have inattentive ADD.

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23 Mar 2007, 6:20 pm

Is there anything that *I* can do, now, and not a month or a few months from now with a shrink? I'm not totally incompetant here. I just ... am kind of lost, is all.
and what would I even say to a shrink? "oh, I've got depression, anxiety disorder, ADD, asperger's, etc, etc, etc... give me lots of pills and send me to unending list of workshops." I usually just go "I don't know what to do..." and they don't either. so... the end. grrrr. I'm frustrated today. and depressed or something.

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23 Mar 2007, 6:29 pm

chaotic_descent wrote:

Yup. ADD

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23 Mar 2007, 6:33 pm

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My own research seems to indicate drugs are the only practical solution at this time.

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23 Mar 2007, 6:48 pm

TheMachine1 wrote:

chaotic_descent wrote:

My own research seems to indicate drugs are the only practical solution at this time.

Let's just assume for a moment that not all of this is the fault of ADD. (ignoring the fact that I don't think I even have the damned thing. gee, is getting annoyed at people a symptom too?!)
and pretend that even normal people, when taken away from normal circumstances, have problems too, and tell me what are the ... things... missing. or whatever. how do people form... stuff... never mind. I feel like curling up in a ball right now. I've been through so much stress this past week, and it just never lets up. I'm at my breaking point.

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23 Mar 2007, 9:20 pm

Everyone experiences symptoms of depression, ADD/ADHD, even AS at SOME point in their lives. It's when the symptoms are persistent and interfere with your life that it becomes classified as a true disorder and not just a personality quirk.

By the way, "ADHD" is the blanket term most clinicians and researchers use to describe both ADD and ADHD. I been diagnosed with innattentive ADHD (technically ADD), but I use the terms interchangeably. Sorry for any confusion.

I wasn't diagnosed until I was 26. I take medication and it helps a little, though not much. I think AS is the major cause of most of my problems, though it is definitely possible to have both ADD and AS, which I think I do.

And yes, a low tolerance for frustration (including frustrating people) is definitely a symptom of ADD. And AS. And depression.

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23 Mar 2007, 9:37 pm

chaotic_descent wrote:

It's not that I have like ADD or anything. My life is just very non-structured.

that is the best way, unfortunatley circumstances outside of you want something else. you have to take control if you can please

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