Do you practice negative coping mechanisms?

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I was talking to a fellow Aspie. He mentioned having an uncomfortable conversation with someone. The result was a feeling that the other person hated him. Because of this he would imagine that the person did not like him. That way, if it turns out to be true, then he would be prepared for it. Basically, he was trying to soften the potential emotional impact if this person hated him.

Do you do this? Do you tell yourself that a specific person, or people in general, may think you're weird, stupid, a loser, or just generally not like you? So that if it ends up being the case it won't hurt as much because you expected it?

That almost sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy type of thing.

I don't think about conversations before I have them. When I've tried to do that my mind cannot focus on such a tedious, boring task. Sometimes my mind does that on its own but then it's never accurate and is daydreaming.

Yes I will try to imagine the worst so I can prepare for that possibility. Not necessarily in regards to what people think of me, but practical things like house repairs or job stuff.

When it comes to people though, I have no idea what to expect.

No I have never done that...sometimes I just outright avoid social interaction though so I don't have to risk running into someone who doesn't like me. IDK on some days I feel like all it would take is one little comment to get me contemplating suicide so on those days I tend to isolate...but when I feel a little more stable like I can take a little bit of nastiness without taking it to heart too much then I just do my best not to worry about it....try to look at it as 'well he if I have a really bad interaction I don't have to spend more time with that person again'.

No, I don't go into social interactions focusing on negatives and worst case scenarios.
This doesn't seem like coping mechanism, but maladaptive cognition instead.

I have the rule of 'innocent until proven guilty' so i imagine everyone is my friend until they have proven they have not. This doesn't always work in my favour.

But I have a lot of very negative coping mechanisms. For instance, alcohol is one of them if I'm forced to interact with large groups of people or people I'm not comfortable with.

Sometimes. I don't believe bad things about myself but I say that other people aren't supposed to become friends with me

Sometimes I think of the worse possible outcome and try to prepare for it. I used to do it all the time but life experience has taught me the worst expectations usually do not happen.

I generally stop making any effort in social interactions if I have the slightest inkling that someone doesn't like me.

Trust, but verify.

Hope for the best, but plan for the worst.

While I wouldn't dismiss someone simply for a suspicion, I would intentionally look for more evidence without saying anything until the suspicion is proven satisfactorily.

I used to do that but I don't anymore cuz I choose not to dwell on things.

Yes, I've done it, and other similar things.
I see it as contingency for worst case scenarios.