Realizing I am most likely undiagnosed h/fAspergian...

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I am somewhat relieved and also afraid and desperatly looking for some support. I am a woman in a new relationship and my fiance is currently seeking help for his daughter who exhibits some symptoms of Aspergers. It was her behaviour that began to make me think and look back on a particular therapist I saw almost 20 year ago. The therapist asked if I had been diagnosed with a learning disability or aspergers before. I was angry and thought I am obviously not some nut case here, just depressed and dont fit in and cant function (haha) I have a first cousin who is an Aspi and I have known friends who have children which are labeled this . I dont understand all the jargon but I do know that when I read "highly functioning" I am confused...there is a huge spectrum I understand. How do I know what I am or how to help myself? My biggest problem is change, any change. I can be completely disorganized and have a hundred projects going, but if anyone else intervenes I cant handle it. I have a terrible problem communicating with those very close to me at times. I confuse people with my questions or my lack of understanding inthe simplest of situations. Unlike what I have read here, I like people, like going to malls and walking and shopping in general. I am very affectionate and very much in love with life and my fiance. But I am so thrown off center when my boyfriend approaches me with a change of plans. Its scaring me. I am afraid of running him off. He is happy to know I have the symptoms of aspis as he believes he can work with me better...make allowances for my reactions etc. I feel really sad that I am so much trouble, such a pain in the ass really. I look back at all the crazy ways I did things and its all so clear. I have alot of anxiety and insecurities. I would prefer to "pm" and not post as this is really hard for me. thank you.

That's okay Usablu. I think that as long as your fiance understands and will do anything to help cope, and that you love him enough to WANT to adjust, then it's pretty clear that you can go ahead and give it a few shots (I say a few because it can be difficult).

And I don't mind if this goes to PM. Be aware that I have to go to bed in about 10 minutes though!

And welcome to WP!

Self diagnosed myself.

You can PM me if you like. But like KBABZ I have to leave for the night now.
Hope you settle in well here at WP.