Would you say you're more mature than a 12 y/o?smarter?

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I've read a lot that autistics usually have the mental maturity of a twelve year old ,does that fit you?

I find it fits me , sure at times I can act like a adult but I find myself more less acting immature for my age.


As for intelligence I can't say since i never got a education due to my aspergers , but if I had to guess ,no.

Its not to say I can't learn but I only learn as well as a twelve year old can.

Hmm, I either feel 12 or 40. Well, younger than 12 actually. I can be childlike, but not childish. I may sometimes deal with stressful situations immaturely, but don't we all at times?
But my boyfriend finds it cute for me to be childlike. And then I can feel like I'm in my 40's too. Like when I last went out with my brother to the pub with his friends, I sat there thinking ''what the hell am I doing with these silly youngsters?'' - even though they were my age and a bit older. I felt like I've already been young about 20 or 30 years ago and I'm just a middle-ager sitting there among all these youngsters.

I love the songs my mum's generation grew up with, and sometimes I act like I grew up in the 70's, though I do know that I grew up in the 90's and I'm glad I did, since the 90's was the best times to be a kid!

Also I don't talk like someone my age. I don't say ''like'' after nearly every other word. Sometimes I do when I'm typing, but not when speaking.

I'd say 9 to 12 personally. I get on well with 11 year olds so in maturity I'm close to 11, maybe a little younger. We were supposed to be responsible for them but they just felt too old for that. So I'm around 10 or 11ish I think. I dunno how smart I am, my brain isn't really working at the moment.

Any broad generalization applied to a diverse group of people is bound to be wrong, even if it is approximately correct in some or many cases.

"Humans all have two feet," for example, is a seemingly non-controversial generalization from the fact that humans are a bipedal species. Nevertheless, it's quite untrue.

I am sure that the generalization that "autistics usually have the mental maturity of a twelve year old" is false and not useful.

I would say it's much more common for humans to have two feet than it is for autistics to possess the maturational never of a person 12 or under. Therefore, the former is a much "better" generalization than the latter.

I take people on an individual basis. I've been fortunate to have lived life--and to know that there are quite a few NON-autistic people who possess the maturational level of a person who is 12 years of age or below.

It's better to get to know the individual person, rather than assume something about that person before you even have a chance to relate to that person.

The same with jobs: just because the alleged unemployment rate for Aspies is 85% doesn't mean YOU can't find a job.

The same with dating prospects: just because Aspies have difficulty finding relationships in their 20's doesn't mean YOU will experience difficulty in your 20's because you are Aspie.

If one lives by the results of "research" pertaining to the "success/failure" of autistic people in many areas--and by generalization in general--one is bound to fail.

It sure fits me.


I have musical farts and I fart solos in my band.

I've assessed my mental age at about 14 and even that is generous at times. But I'm a 14 year old with 50 years of memories and experiences so I'm really caught somewhere in between. I react to all adults as being older than me even if they're less than half my chronological age but they look at me, see my grey hair and call me "Mister". That always comes as a shock.

I was just thinking I feel around 7 years behind at least in terms of maturity etc.
Now I'm screwed because of it, the times where all those opportunities presented themselves are over.. I'm mostly talking about girls.

I feel I only started recently to really realize how society and relationships work.
I was never given a guidebook.. and it feels like others were.. they always had directions in life and knew what they were doing..

Probably.

No and that sounds like a stereotype. As Adamantium said, "Any broad generalization applied to a diverse group of people is bound to be wrong, even if it is approximately correct in some or many cases," that may be true for some people on the spectrum but absolutely not every single person- just like NT's. I actually have the maturity of someone in their 30's- I think it depends on your personality and life experiences. But your question does rub me the wrong way.

I can't handle responsibility, I feel that I have not properly experienced years of my life and/or I have not applied them in any sort of self-improving way, I do not generally enjoy the company of people who have a lot of responsibilities, my emotions seem to be either all or none. Yeah not so mature.

I'm absolutely smarter than a 12y/o, but I almost feel less mature now than I did when I was 12, although that's probably based off of comparison to the cohorts at each timepoint, now and when I was 12. Unfortunately, being smart isn't enough for...fulfillment? success? something, despite nearly everyone I interact with thinking that it is.

The question doesn't rub me the wrong way, somehow. It's exactly the type of thing that would greatly bother me, but doesn't. I guess I feel young too, not just 'display' young, I guess with accepting that there's no point in getting bothered by it.

my maturity is about right for my age, though i've come by it through the school of hard knocks.

According to Tony Attwood's book The Complete Guide To Asperger's Syndrome, we typically have an emotional maturity of approximately 2/3rds our chronological age.

So, I'm 32 & that makes it perfectly normal for me to feel like a 21 year old. Sometimes I do, other times I feel my age or older and think others are immature. But I never feel like a 12 year old child, no. I am definitely a lot more mature than that, and smarter than the typical 12yo, too.

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I feel far more mature. Even when I was 12 myself I still acted more mature than my peers, many of them called me boring as a result, but whatever.

Yes, I'm as mature as a 12 year old and I'm as smart as I was when I was a child.
I remember being a very smart and logical child who was always thinking, but I don't think I've gotten any smarter. Just have more experience.