Anyone else had a major event in life bookending limbo?

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Mine was when my ex left me... college also ended, along with my entire life... 2.5 years later I'm in the same kind of limbo. All I do is watch anime and listen to radio 4.

Relationships ending have a certain symbolic effect, don't they? Like an on-off switch on life itself, perhaps...

Maybe life is just one long perpetual limbo dance Mootoo.

I felt that when I separated from my husband. Four years later, I'm finally breaking out of the limbo, getting properly divorced, and moving on with my life, but sometimes it takes a while to work up the courage!

I was in a relationship for 23 years. When it ended, I was devastated and didn't know what to do. I'd lived with my Mother up until the age of 24 and straight into a relationship. I'd never lived on my own.

I was in the relationship for so long, I couldn't even imagine flying solo despite the fact that over that time, I'd learned to cook, clean, all the basics.

It took me 4 years to TRULY get over it. I went through stages where I thought I was over it and would then find myself bawling my eyes out once again but now, this is the happiest I've ever been.
I live with my kitten, I've got everything set up the way I want it. I live alone and no one comes around. I have inner peace. I can smile and laugh again.

I spent ages in hospital over several visits due to depression. I gave up eating and took up drinking (a lot). I went from 105kg down to 70kg in a few months and would polish off a 4 litre cask of wine in one night several nights a week. I nearly killed myself due to depression.

There is truth in the expression 'Time heals'.

When you're truly over it, you'll know. You can feel it inside. It feels like peace and calm and you don't have little niggling thoughts in the back of your mind like, "Maybe I'm just fooling myself thinking I'm over it!"

It's been a long, painful journey but one well worth it.

I'm rediscovering the joys of cooking (and eating). I take pictures of the masterpieces I cook. I no longer drink or smoke and I'm at a point once again where I enjoy life.

I'm rambling as I usually do but I hope you can get some good out of what I've contributed.

Just keep your chin up and remember, nothing lasts forever - not even sadness!

P.S.

And just remember, those who fly solo have the strongest wings

But the problem remains as long as one is alone... getting used to it is possible, but it's not the same as sharing a life with someone... http://www.kongregate.com/games/2darray ... -of-myself depicts it well, metaphorically... I could never personally get used to cooking, but instead might end up overeating. I have a cat too, and while cuddling is possible we can't converse...

How looooo... can you goooo.....?

I beg to differ. I've always preferred to be alone, for as long as I can remember - all my life. Never lonely. I've never needed anyone to keep me company. In fact, I quite often find it stifling. I enjoy and prefer my own company. I relish quiet solitude. During the time I was with my partner, I became too used to having others around but I never lost my love of being alone.

I once wrote in a journal/bookie thing, "I enjoy Kathy's company but nothing's better than when she walks out that door to go to work and I get to be alone!"

Needless to say, she later on found it and was very upset until she found out I was an Aspie and then she understood, it was nothing personal.

Sharing a life with someone means you've always got to compromise. You don't get to do what you want when you want. It means shackled! It means lots of things I don't want. Being alone means FREEDOM!! !

Conversation is overrated. Besides, I talk to my kitten and if you understand Cat, he converses back in his own way. We have absolutely no trouble understanding each other. A lot of Cat communication is in their body language, eyes, ears etc.. Learn to read that and you've pretty much got it.

There is a certain kind of beauty to be found in living in solitude where one can find the time, peace and quiet to truly discover oneself. Something you can't do when constantly surrounded by the meaningless chatter of those around you.

Each to their own. All I know is it suits ImAnAspie.

What does life bookending limbo mean?

I'd never heard of the expression before and to be quite honest, I think it's made up - BUT - to me, it makes sense. It seems like a bookend is the last thing on a long line of thick books and then, nothing.

When your life is busy being with someone (thick with books) and then suddenly, you're alone - the other side - the empty side of the bookend.

Quickly going from a life with a relationship to nothing, limbo.

That's how I interpreted it.

Thank you. That makes sense the way you explain it.