The more one is alone the more they regress?

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02 Jul 2015, 3:49 am

I think I'm becoming more classically introverted... I've always been so, but currently I don't feel like I can even go out due to children outside - although their kicking balls occasionally against my block of flats is a major factor (I just worry they'll intentionally get into conflict with me, especially as I tried to reason with a couple of them before which totally backfired). Currently, I think I'm more anxious than I've been for a while, even inside my flat...



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02 Jul 2015, 5:10 am

Stand up to those children and threaten to tell their parents. An adult Aspie should be able to stand up to a few children.


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02 Jul 2015, 10:43 am

I know isolation is really bad for NT psychology, there are tons of reports on the effects of solitary confinement in prisons. I would assume it could cause problems for someone on the spectrum as well, if for no other reason than its easy to fall into old habits/ways of thinking without others around to give you a nudge every now and again.

I'm an introvert and I've experimented without self isolation to see what effects it would have on me when I was younger, after spending about a month and a half not talking to another person I was noticing some disturbing effects and ended the experiment. If you feel like you're regressing, then trust your instincts and try to get out and socialize as much as you comfortably can, it isn't easy but it doesn't have to be big to get some positive psychological effects.



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02 Jul 2015, 10:47 am

I have regressed when I've put myself in isolation too long.



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02 Jul 2015, 1:31 pm

Cockroach96 wrote:
Stand up to those children and threaten to tell their parents. An adult Aspie should be able to stand up to a few children.


I mentioned I tried to talk to them... I don't know where their parents live and I can't possibly follow them around and be obsessed about them to do so.

And bookworm360... it's easy to say but not easy in practice... a single adult with no family society just leaves alone. It's always my initiative, and I've no idea what options there are (I ended up banned from a number of places I could go to...)



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02 Jul 2015, 3:08 pm

I do well when I haven't had interactions with people for a while. There was a period of time when I wasn't working, and if I didn't want to go out of the house for two weeks at a time, I didn't. I LOVED not having to talk to anyone. People mess me up, and the more real life face to face interactions in my real life, the more screwed up I feel.



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02 Jul 2015, 3:55 pm

Maybe when you are by yourself you are more comfortable and don't have to hide any behaviour, so it's like you've regressed even if you haven't necessarily. I prefer being alone as I don't have to stop myself from doing anything and there's no expectations that I have to do such and such.



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02 Jul 2015, 6:27 pm

prefer to be alone but secretly wish I could be part of the NT world. they all seem to click and communicate in harmony...sigh...I can be in a room of 100 people and still be so alone! I have grown tired of attempting to be like them because that is not me. but yeh, sometimes I feel like I am regressing by being alone but try to stay focused by living in the moment, that really helps.



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02 Jul 2015, 6:32 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I have regressed when I've put myself in isolation too long.


This happened to me. Walking to the park or around the block, going to the store to purchase something helps.

I would ignore the children unless they say hello. Then I would just smile and say hi. That's what I do with my neighborhood's children.


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03 Jul 2015, 3:47 pm

I find when I'm alone for a while my Aspie issues come out more & some are potentially bad.


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03 Jul 2015, 4:01 pm

I find that in times when I am away from the NT world for long periods of time I almost lose the ability to talk. My wife and I both have AS and do not need to use much in way of verbal communication and my speaking skills suffer. I find I also lose the ability to deal with NT emotions. It is simply exhausting.


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03 Jul 2015, 5:01 pm

I have noticed I get worse when I'm alone. My paranoia in particular gets severe. I never want to be absolutely alone because of it.


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03 Jul 2015, 9:11 pm

Yeah I think this is definitely true. Since moving, where I have not had many friends, i have noticed myself becoming more anxious and more depressed. and issues that i have dealt with, or that never were issues, are becoming issues. i think it is due to the amount of time alone, and picking apart your own thoughts. socialization-any type of socialization helps keep the focus off ourselves, at least in my case it has.



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03 Jul 2015, 10:21 pm

I think I tend to need a bit of social interaction just to stay familiar with the required skill set. If I've been living like a hermit for too long, it can come as a shock to suddenly have to behave appropriately when there are other folks around. And I think people exert a "normalising pressure" on each other which has its good side - if an individual is going a bit barmy, it will attract some cautionary feedback from others that might influence them. I'm fiercely independent, but not to the point where I don't value the opinions and advice of others.

But I think online social interaction can be an adequate substitute for "real" socialising, so as long as I was still talking with people on the Web, I don't think I'd go too nutty.