how many kids do you have ?

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i want to know that normally how many kids do you have ? in your mind how many kids is better for a family ? i am considering to have one more but feel so stressful . i am not rich .just common one , and i am 39 years old .do you think it is too old ?
anyway ,i am considering my economy situation ,my health . i really don't know if i should have the second one .
my son want a younger sister or brother so much . and i know just only kid is too lonely .
what do you think ?

I never want to have kids, and never have, so zero. I can't stand babies.

I have no siblings.

I am 33 and I have one child. Personally, I do not want anymore children.

I'm 54. No kids. Sometimes I wish I had one.

Two. No more.

I have two and I sometimes wonder if it was a good idea, with all our problems... Just no more, definitely no more.

never having kids. i dont have the patience.

i have 1 sibling and she tortured me to no end. im glad i have her though.

I do not have any kids nor do I plan on having any. Watching out for myself is already hard enough as it is being an Asperger sufferer.

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The answer depends on the family and could range from 0 to 5 or more. If you can't cope, then one or none might be the right number for your family.

There is no way that the number that seems right to me in my family can help you determine what is right for your family.

I have one "very hairy" cat named Waldo. He's the equivalent to 20 kids and always wants the attention on him. He's Aspie. If we have a staring contest he always loses. He needs his alone time a lot. He doesn't like "huggie and smoochie" time. He doesn't like making new friends. Eats better than me - Fancy Feast. Drinks filtered water. Has several binkies and every toy known to cat. He's a tuxedo cat, but his markings look like he's wearing a bikini top and heart shaped panties, but he's all boy.

Just one, and he's grown up now and seems to be doing well. He was born when I was 30 years old.

I don't think I could have coped with more than one child. Even one was a hell of an adjustment for the first few years, my life wasn't my own any more. I got used to it eventually. But two - I don't think I'd have been able to cope with balancing their needs against each other. It's like any other social situation for me, one-on-one works tolerably well, more than that and it can get very complicated. Of course a lot depends on the quality of your relationship with the other parent. My relationship had some terrible flaws.

Normally I have four. I have four even abnormally. I'm assuming English isn't your first language and I'm not making fun, just joking around.

But yeah, I have four kids. 18 girl, 20 boy, 21 girl, 26 boy. It was really hard having all three of the younger ones little at the same time. I had three in diapers at once and boy did that drive me crazy. No birth control at all during my marriage until after my youngest was born and I had the prolapsed uterus so my husband got fixed. It was easier that way than if I did. I also had the last three at home with a midwife. I had the first one in the hospital because I worked there at the time, NICU and L&D. It was so much better to have them at home, but it hurt a lot worse.

I think that having at least two kids is best. I think that they all need to have a sibling. I was an only child and I hated it. I think having more than one child helps keep them from getting as spoiled and it goes a long way toward helping them learn to interact better with those near their age and they always have somebody to play with when they are younger. Mine are all very close even though they went through the normal "I hate my siblings" phased. They hang out with each other by choice and talk on the phone with each other or text each other a lot. They are each other's support system and it's great that they have that.

That doesn't mean all siblings will be like that. I know lots of people who don't get along with their siblings at all and actually do hate them, so it's always a risk that it will turn out that way.

Also, it was a lot easier for me to have more than one baby because when it was just me and my oldest at home by ourselves he needed a lot more time and attention from me than he did after his sister was born and was walking and talking. When they have somebody else to talk to and play with you have more time to get other things done. Also, they learn more socialization that way. I have AS so I had a huge socialization problem anyway, plus my mother was insanely overprotective even though nobody knew I had AS until I was in middle age, but until I was about 13 years old I couldn't socialize with anybody except adults. I knew nothing about other kids because they were horrible to me and adults weren't.

I also have a five year old grandbaby. My 26yo son and his baby mama share custody of her.

I'd say if you want another kid, have one. If you wait till you can afford one or think you're ready you will never do it.

I have two kids, but I wanted four. Medical problems prevented that.

I have one sister, but I wish I had more siblings. My sister and I were close in age, but we were so different (she is one of the most NT people I know) that we just didn't get along that great in childhood. Our relationship is much better & closer now, but I could have used a "sibling friend" when I was younger. I wish I had a brother, in particular.

My husband is an only child. So, our families are very small.

We wonder sometimes what will happen when our parents are unable to take care of themselves.

I generally think siblings are a good idea, but individual family situations need to be considered. No one can answer for you if you should have a second child.

Three kids, that's enough. We struggle to handle the ones we have, but it is rewarding and they are so fun.

It's a very big responsibility to put yourself through. Definitely something you have to think about in terms of your own life for a long time before. But if you do want children then go for it, nothing to stop you.

I'm only 18 so thankfully I have 0 kids. I don't think I ever will have any, the process by which you reproduce, pregnancy, and the care of the child all sound awful to me. One of the other reasons I don't want children is my family history. Almost everyone on my dad's side has autism, and many of them are severe and nonverbal. Those in his family without autism have either severe depression or severe bipolar, from what I've heard. My dad is the one of the only ones without either I think. My mum's side has some cancer but not much else I don't think.

So my worry is... a severely autistic child bipolar disorder and cancer.