is wrongplanet not the right planet for me either?

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i'm beginning to feel like i don't belong here any more than i do in the NT world.

anyone else feel like as much of an alien here sometimes as they do out there? sometimes i doubt there is such a thing as a community anywhere in which i could feel accepted, and today is definitely one of those days. i feel like when i speak my mind honestly, no matter to what group of people, all i get are blank stares and no understanding.

if i'm not welcome here, i'd rather not waste my time. should i leave?

What makes you feel you're not welcome? You just have to welcome yourself. You can't just wait for others to welcome you, it's a forum with thousands of members.

Join in on the conversation when and if you want to, and you'll soon feel just as weird as everyone else

I hope you stay. Sometimes I feel a little out of place here too but when I feel that I just take a break and give it time and then come back. I belong to another forum too and sometimes if I spend too much time on the forums I can feel a little insecure about them. So it helps to get a little space and then come back.

But I have learned a lot here and I continue to so I find it a great resource. And I simply stay away from threads that might be a little bit much for me to handle. But even though you might feel like you are having a tough time here you are welcome and very much appreciated and I really do hope you stay.

I've found that just talking to people helps. If I see a person whose posts I consistently like, I comment on them, sometimes PM them. Or weirdly sometimes they pm me first. Not everybody will respond the way you want them to, some of them are shy of anything relating to social commitment or sometimes they just won't be interested. It's hard if you have a concept of being embraced by the community as a whole because it's a very large one and the personalities vary pretty radically.

There are some very cool and nice and fun people here though.

Yes, I feel like that a lot. There is a mind-bogglingly huge array of differences between people in general, even within the same minority groups, and when I look at it head-on, it seems impossible to ever really connect deeply or extensively. Ironically, the tendency of people to be so much the same in other areas is also an issue for me, because I have rather obscure perspectives on life, and no one would even understand what I was talking about unless I provided a huge lecture's worth of introductory information. I can't win either way.

I don't know if "welcome" really factors into a forum. It's kind of a free for all outside of the more tightknit groups.

Most people on WrongPlanet seem more emotional about life and socially-oriented yet stereotypically Aspie or against the big, bad, NT world than I am. I can't even properly form the "us" in the "us vs them" battles.

I feel like I don't belong here because I believe that vaccines and other toxins can cause autism.

I really hope you do stay. I cannot know about your previous interactions on the Wrong Planet, but sorry if you're feeling left out or hurt.

For perspective, oftentimes good and thoughtful posts may not elicit too many replies. And that's OK. It does not necessarily reflect at all on the poster! In fact, sometimes I'll read a good post and may not reply if I do not have a specific comment to offer. Aspies tend to be blunt (heh heh.....we all know who you are ). We do not mean to be offish or dismissive, but rather this is just our way. We might not necessarily gush empathetic emotions, but we do care. Sometimes a given member can be harsh, but please know that does not reflect on you personally.

Maybe just approach the Wrong Planet with a dose of humour - Aspies have a superb sense of humour, just go with it!! ! No worries about making "correct" posts or pleasing anybody. Trust, I notoriously mess-up emoticon usage.

You might choose a forum you especially like, based on your own interests, and direct your posts there. See? Look how many members have posted above me, reassuring you that you are welcome.

I feel that way too.

Note: I have read certain posts that are factually scientifically wrong. As a scientist, I will then lay down the facts! It's nothing personal, really. Just sayin', do not take Aspie's notorious bluntness too personally. We are just like that. <insert proper emotion here>

Now, that being said, if anyone should ever insult you, please do let a moderator know so it can be addressed. It's wrong to bully or attack anybody - I hope you have not been hurt in this way. And I really hope you feel at home here, you belong and I like you.