Why are so many autistic people unattractive?

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why are so many autistic people unattractive? According to "experts", autism doesn't affect appearance at all but if that were the case, woudn't there be more attractive people with autism? No offense, but the majority of aspies/autistics I know would be considered unattractive. And i'm pretty sure like 80% of the ones I know are overweight as well, and we're talking about aspie teens and young adults. When it comes to appearance, we're probably one of the most unattractive groups of people.


I have a couple of theories on why autistics are usually unattractive.

There probably are good looking autistic people but they're more likely to be undiagnosed and fly under the radar. The reason is because since they're good looking, they come off as normal and their aspie traits are more likely to go unnoticed. Uglier people are more likely to be diagnosed because they can't get away with it.

Another reason why there's so many unattractive autistics is because a lot of just don't give a s**t about appearance. We never exercise or work out, we don't comb our hair, we don't shower, don't shave, don't put on good clothes. I'm pretty sure 8 out of 10 are overweight in their early 20s so this is never good.

Combine all of this with the fact that many of us don't drive, unemployed and/or live off of SSI, and we may not appeal to the opposite sex. If you were to ask 100 autistics if they ever had a girlfriend at age 20, I bet you 10 bucks that around 85 would say no. The sad thing is that there's plenty of autistics who want a boyfriend/girlfriend or get laid but there's not enough support for us so we really have no idea how to get a relationship nor keep one. It's no wonder why we're much more likely to be virgins, never kissed, and never been in a relationship at older ages. Being ugly with sh***y social skills is a double whammy!


So yeah as a group of people, we're not particularly attractive. I'm not saying all of us are ugly. There's actually some good looking people I know who are diagnosed but theres many many more people who DON'T look like male models at all.


My final word advice to all hopefuls who want to be in a relationship, appearance matters whether you like it or not. If you're a guy looking to impress girls, fashion matters a lot. If you're a girl looking for a guy, appearance matters A LOT! there's absolutely nothing wrong with making yourself look good which I highly recommend you all do. If you start watching what you eat, do some aerobic exercise, and start lifting weight, it will improve your appeal to the opposite sex. Start combing your hair and putting on nice clothes as well. So start giving a s**t about how you look and you'd be surprised at how more attractive you can become.


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Why do so many autistic people make sweeping generalizations that are simply not true?

Why do so many autistic people express unsupportable theories to validate their claims?

Why do so many autistic people ask so many stupid questions?

I think I saw this thread or a very similar one a few days ago but it quickly vanished. Why is that? Luckily I still had my response to that thread that I tried to submit on my mobile. I just paste it here.

"I pretty much agree with all that you said. You are not really saying autistic people inherently have ugly physical appearance.

You didn't mention awkwardness and lacking self-confidence somehow contribute to looking ugly/unattractive, too. Confident people somehow look more attractive.

And I believe there are some that really don't care about looking attractive or finding a romantic partner, too. I think there are more such people in the autistic population than in the non-autistic population."

I just care too much about finding a girlfriend. I'm just tired of being single. Girls are pretty much my obsession. lol, it's sad but true.

But I know because im short, shy, and special, I won't get a girlfriend or get laid and I don't want to waste all of my young adulthood never have had any experience with girls before. This is why being autistic sucks.


Autism = being undateable

Oh man, the original poster will probably be banned for trolling. This forum must be run by Joe Stalin.

I think its a good question though.....

Here are a couple theories of mine. If it affects our facial expressions and body language, these things can make us unattractive even if we werent.

If motor skills are an issue, then those with that problem are probably out of shape, if not overweight.

Please define "attractive".

To me, this subject seems wholly subjective and is a sweeping generalisation, too.

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I was often asked out on dates while in high school, I declined every single one because I was uninterested. I was at school to do schoolwork, not something else (unless it was avoiding gym class, I liked avoiding gym class.. I couldn't run without my legs locking up.. and my coordination sucked unless it was playing defense in american soccer).

Often times, people around me would swear they looked for personality instead of body type. For me, personality and compatibility would be the biggest defining factor in looking for someone to partner off with.

Appearance might influence the base need to find a healthy partner, but there just so happens to be more than just appearance to consider when picking someone to befriend. Autism hardly defines anyone as being undateable.

They're unattractive because nature made it so they don't have the appropriate looks or genes to procreate. Another theory could be they have been so fed up at society always telling them they're no good so they've given up and stopped working out or trying to look good.

Political correctness, white lies and self deceit is not going to get anyone in this thread a partner.

We(as individuals) need to be self aware and and realize what unattractive features and qualities we have, and fix them accordingly.

"Subjective" "Sweeping generalization" is right down there with "its whats on the inside that counts" "my mother says Im good looking" and othersuch garbage.

We live in a dimension called reality, and we have no choice but to deal with that, as much as it sucks.

Science and reality are not compatible with political correctness.

Look on the pictures on this Site.

This will disprove your theory about people with autism having a higher rate of "unattractiveness" than the general population.

I guarantee you...if you believe what you say, you'll have a hard time getting a girlfriend.

I ain't so hot-looking---I'm old, getting fat, have a chipped tooth, etc......but I know I'm attractive enough for a relationship. I know this for an unalterable fact.

Now don't get me wrong, some aspies aren't THAT ugly. I'm not saying they're male models but it's not like they're unattractive either. They definitely have potential. It's just all about wearing some better clothes, maybe getting a new hairstyle, and possibly losing some weight and working out more.

I think some of us are perceived as less attractive because of our demeanor. Maybe we talk funny and have poor social skills so this may turn some women off.

I would also like to say that attractiveness isn't all in the face, a lot of it is your body type. If you're a guy and you're short, you will always be viewed as not as attractive. Being short and fat or being short and really skinny will make you less appealable. If you're a woman, height is not a factor in how attractive you will be but weight is. Obese women arne't as attractive. Luckily, your body type can be somewhat changed. You can gain weight, lose weight, or build muscle. However, curvy women can be very hot so there is a difference between being curvy and obese.

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I'd have looked good if I'd been a teenager in the late 60's/early 1970's as I've got naturally thick straight hair and I like the type of clothes they had back then, I wouldn't have had to make much of an effort to appear 'with it', it was all about projecting a natural image and 'freaking out', so it probably would have been a bonus to be a bit weird around that time.
The late 1970's British punk era I could have fitted into easily as well, but sadly I hit my teens in the 1980's when the fashions were very ostentatious and completely ridiculous. I spent the majority of that decade feeling embarrassed on everybody else's behalf.

Well because there is less of us. Also because autistics tend to not care about their appearance as much as NTs therefore they may not be as attractive.

I'm sure there are plenty of attractive people with ASD just look at the "Post a picture of the real you!" thread, you'll see.

I wouldn't consider Aspies more ugly than NTs. I definitely agree that they're more awkward looking. Some of them should care more about their body, hygiene and fashion. I also notice some of them have awkward body language that makes them less attractive.

I have met some Aspies who are very attractive. They just have a monotone voice or rely too much on scripts. That stuff makes it hard to get a date.