lostproperty wrote:
The thing with tense people, assuming that they're tense most of the time and not just tense because they're in your company, is that you know they're being honest about who they are. It must be rare for people to fake a tense persona. They may be difficult to converse with but I'd feel under less pressure to put on an act with tense people.
I never felt comfortable being around the types who were overtly happy and loud, constantly laughing and making jokes. I think that's just another way of expressing inner emotional pain, but they're also in denial. Genuinely content people are usually much more calm, subtle and composed. I can understand that people will let themselves go with friends they know well in appropriate situations, but the sort of people who act like the life and soul of a party whatever the time or place are, more often than not, masking a lot of personal problems that they haven't even begun to get to grips with. Those people scare me because they are the types that won't understand other people's problems either, they expect everybody to fake being happy and feel threatened by those that won't
Not sure that's the case. I get bothered by their energy just as much as their behavior. I encounter tense people everywhere I go. Some people try to act fake with lame small talk. I can easily see through that.
I think it's related to my geographical location. A lot of people in my area are having a hard time making friends. It must be something in the water.
It might also be my personality. I can be a bit intense. Some people might not be able to handle that and react by becoming boring and tense.
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Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 82 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 124 of 200
You are very likely neurotypical
30 Jul 2015, 2:18 pm
