Can Aspie Kids Be Very Talkative And Outgoing?

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I ask, because as said in the haven, my mother is giving me a hard time,saying I was a normal child because I talked all the time, asking endless questions, and couldn't be shut up half the time. She says I was outgoing and very affectionate but that I tended to be controlling and bossy with other kids. According to her, I walked at 11 months, and talked very early, and read early too...didn't even crawl, went straight to walking. Now, even though I have read many books, and have read aspie kids can often go the other way to being introverted, I am confused... I fit everything, from what I read, but I am left unsure by the whole outgoing thing...tho that disappeared as I got older and I withdrew.

I'm outgoing by nature, although I think I was held back by the fact that I was shy as a kid.

of course. so many aspies talk a lot

I used to be outgoing and happy, then they drugged me,,,,,,,,and now im not

I am one of those who are talkative and outgoing.

Tim

According to the DSM-IV they could be. Aspergers does not mean one will be socially
withdrawn but the nature of the condition means often a person though failed social
experiences would become socially withdrawn. If I'm comfortable around people I'm very talkative.

Apparently, I used to be always asking questions like, how did the snail get it's shell and such things, always curious and wanting to know more...but the whole outgoing thing threw me, as in spite of reading material on aspergers, I always get this idea in my head of us as always introverted and quiet and withdrawn... I am that way now, afterall. I think the very fact I was controlling and bossy suggests I had issues, for sure.. I mean, one of my few friends sprayed me in the eye with perfume, so I must have done something to offend her. I think I said something nasty, thinking back now.

I never stop talking, and I was even in drama in my old school!
Asperger's doesn't necessarily mean a serious, monosyllabic person who repeats whatever is said to them.
Tell your mother to look at the DSMV. The diagnostic criteria for Aspergers and a loquatious, friendly person are not mutually exclusive.

i'll won't shut up if you get me into an interesting conversation.

I doubt she would even read the criteria. Most likely, once I am home, I will email them to her..or I could 'ACCIDENTALLY' leave my Tony Atwood book on aspergers here?

She says she remembers me asking what happened when a snail lost its shell when I was small, lol. And if it grew a new one.

She also told me she was a member of MENSA when younger...my mother had OCD and some aspie traits, but she seems very well adjusted. She tends to burst into tears or rage if things go wrong with anything, but she has friends these days since living alone and has filled her life with her art, and her degrees...she is about to do her 4th degree! and theatre etc. She shows empathy too, tho... whereas I do not.

None of this is unAspie of you. Here's what I've read: Aspies can be talkative and talk to anyone (especially when young). They can ask all kinds of questions to learn things. They can appear controlling and bossy as if they are know-it-alls or think everyone should want to know about the things they do (pulling someone along to look at the things you find interesting for instance). Talking, walking and reading early do not exclude you. Aspies are often affection and, in fact, can be overly affectionate since they don't know social boundaries. If you weren't shy at first, it probably took some hurtful incidents to make you withdraw. That happens to many Aspies and you shouldn't think that you aren't one based on Mom. Leave her the book. If she wants to learn, she'll read it. Maybe her next degree will be in Psychology and she will learn about it. There's always some room for hope.

Those teachers are f#^$tards. They shouldn't be allowed to teach.

As for mine, they ENCOURAGED helping out the other kids if you did it right.