How to defeat loneliness?

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At this point I honestly don't think I'll be rid of mine until teleportation exists... it's just that, things happen in places, but I'm just not in those places, and neither can I be there in time. I can see all that happens online, but that's as far as I can go as long as instantaneous movement isn't possible...

I'm not sure I understand your line of thought. Just because you could be at the place where "things are happening," how would that defeat loneliness? One could be in the middle of a large crowd of people and still feel alone.

My thought on defeating loneliness is to either make connections with other people or find a way to be happier within yourself so you can be alone but not lonely.

I personally feel lonely only when I'm in a large group of people, especially strangers.

I vanquish feelings of loneliness by paradoxically isolating myself.

I think he's referring to events organised for people with similar interests or gatherings of specific communities, to which he would relate. Those aren't happening where he lives now.

Moving to somewhere that has almost everything going on, such as London for example, may not be a practical solution in the here and now, but maybe spending a week or a few days there, going to the right places and meeting the right people, could be a positive step.

Loneliness is a tough opponent. If you can figure out how to beat it, then let me know!

Teleportation? That's cool. Hey, I get it if you live in the sticks. Devizes perhaps? Don't worry, it's never too late to move.

Before joining here I used to think at intervals that maybe I need someone who understands me, but these days simply lurking posts here erases even that kind of need, as I found a lot of questions that I used to have and a lot of satisfying answers. The whole sum of articles here have been a decent company so far.

Keeping busy is usually what helps me.

I don't think it can ever be defeated, but I think it can be alleviated a lot. I think it's a matter of finding the right people and striving to communicate with them, to share bits of life with them, and to relate to them. I think loneliness is simply the (rather painful) force that drives us to connect with others. Actually achieving that sustainably might be quite difficult, especially for autistic people.

make friends and find hobbies (which might make more friends).

that's all there is to it, the only cure for loneliness is having real friends, but a strong hobby can take your mind off it