Did your parents ever notice ASD symptoms young?

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21 Aug 2015, 9:38 pm

My dad always thought I was normal however he did take note of my problems with other students and my delay with hand-eye coordination and balance. He also found it strange that I could not tie my shoes and I would bang my head on walls.

My mother on the other hand knew I was different, she would describe me as being "in my own world" she even rejected me after a while. She tried to fix me when I was in school and thought I had bad hearing and took me to see a lot of doctors. She also noticed I was failing in school and tried to help me with flash cards. I lived with her for a while after my parents split up when I was 14. She took to me see doctors a lot because I was being bullied, had loads of trouble in school. When I was diagnosed my dad told my mom and she just said " I know.." She doesn't talk to me much.

Did you parents ever notice you were off?


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21 Aug 2015, 9:45 pm

Yep.

Speaking to my parents recently, I realized that from an early age I walked on my toes, took things literally, and attacked my father for telling a small lie.


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21 Aug 2015, 9:54 pm

I believe they viewed the symptoms as character flaws.


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21 Aug 2015, 11:55 pm

Mild prematurity delays. Although, my non-understandable speech once I started fluently talking was very obvious.


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22 Aug 2015, 12:01 am

They noticed but had nobody to compare me to as I was first-born, first grandson and there was little public knowledge of Autism. They assumed I was a normal kid who was in a "phase" that he would grow out of.


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22 Aug 2015, 12:13 am

My mom took me to a psychologist, but he merely diagnosed me as emotionally and socially immature, and with an above average IQ. I think they just assumed my quirks were due to the IQ.


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22 Aug 2015, 3:16 am

I didn't display any peculiar behaviour until I was 4, and even then it wasn't typical Aspie behaviour. It was more like ADHD behaviour, all coming out at once. After 5 years of going to therapists and child psychologists, I finally got a diagnosis of Asperger's when I was 9. But to this day I still think I should have been diagnosed with ADHD instead, but my shyness and anxiety through school probably made them decide to slap on an ASD diagnosis instead, because of the stereotype ''all children with ADHD are extroverts''.


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22 Aug 2015, 3:22 am

I think my parents did notice something was different. But i think that they have convinced themselves that it was normal or just a quirk or something.
I think (almost) everyone in my surroundings has noticed social difficulties (bit most of the people dismis me as being a jerk or immature.
My mom has now started taking a my social issues seriously (but not seriously enough).


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22 Aug 2015, 3:25 am

They noticed pretty quickly. Especially since I was always side by side with my cousin who was born only four months earlier. I was fully diagnosed autistic by the time I was two years old.



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22 Aug 2015, 5:07 am

I find it kind of hilarious now how many people in my family are looking back at my childhood saying 'oh my goodness, yes' upon news of my diagnosis.

I think, because our experience of disability was through my younger brother who has severe learning difficulties we were kind of oblivous to the higher functioning end. I was known as odd by everyone, but no-one could ever really describe it.

My godmother says right from a baby I needed time out away from the other children each day. I hated having photographs taken, was very sensitive to touch, labels on clothes etc., I even held onto my dummy longer than I should have because it was one of the few things that calmed me. I carried soft toys or ribbons in my bags to school and often would have trouble getting to school on the bus, even though I loved school. I threw tantrums sometimes and none of us knew why, I was told I was very black and white, I was obsessive in certain topics. I never really understood other teenagers.

In fact even school knew there was something, just not what. I had to have special meetings as young as 12 because I'd scored something like top15 in the intelligence tests but bottom 15 in my end of year exams and they didn't know why. (To me it felt utterly ludicrous that being able to do logic puzzles meant I could do geography but there you go). I was once asked if I was on anti depressants because I would sometimes randomly burst into tears in class. I ran out of a physics lesson once where they were playing high pitched noises. I used to sometimes struggle to write or talk, especially in sixth form, because my brain felt so jumbled. Heck, they even set up a special group based on me because teachers had noticed I didn't really interact. Turns out I met most of my good friends there so I'm not complaining. But basically everyone had an idea there was something, they just didn't know what until a university counsellor suggested aspergers.

I'd even once been taken to the doctors as a young teen for a meltdown and sensory issues and the doctor asked if my lack of eye contact was usual, then gaveme a short treatment of anxiety medication.

Basically, yes,yestheynoticed stuff, they just didn't know enough about themore hih functioning end of the spectrum that it ever crossed their minds.

Thankfully we know now, :D



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22 Aug 2015, 6:32 am

As a young child between the ages of 4 and 12 I had tantrums, but they were over things I wanted but couldn't have. I still hadn't adjusted emotionally, and would deal with things like a toddler. Like I remember when I was about 8 I was staying in a caravan with my family (a camping holiday by the sea), and we had a big caravan with an extra bedroom, and my brother chose to sleep in there. I threw a tantrum because I wanted him to sleep in the same room as me. I screamed and cried and kicked the wall, because I felt helpless.

Looking back at these sorts of situations, I do feel ashamed.


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22 Aug 2015, 6:33 am

My parents didn't know I was autistic until I was 6.


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22 Aug 2015, 6:42 am

My mother was quite resistant to the idea of me having ASD at 14 until she spoke to other parents and decided I did.

However, she definitely noticed something was up because she dragged me from doctor to doctor saying something was wrong with me and would they check my hearing.

It was assumed I was uncooperative with hearing tests when young and then later I learnt to cheat on them. I was found to have bilateral moderate hearing loss at age 7 after a school teacher supported my mother's views.

That said, my parents were both convinced I had a dramatic change in personality caused by my MMR. So much that they paid for my brother to have his done separately privately. My mother later didn't get my brother's boosters.

My mum decided that this must have caused my hearing loss (the genetic findings for my hearing loss were inconclusive but the type of loss I have is rare and associated with genetics... Plus family history).

My dad, on the forms for my autism assessment with me at age 20, remarked that the change in personality seemed to have been caused by the MMR and specifically mentioned autism. I did not tell him that the forms were for an autism assessment.



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22 Aug 2015, 6:46 am

I think they did notice other oddities about me but just thought I was a little peculiar, naughty/defiant and very gifted.

My school had me sit an IQ test at age 10.



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22 Aug 2015, 7:28 am

Yeah...they noticed.

Not speaking until age 5 will have anybody worried! I was dragged from doctor to doctor constantly.

I thought the EEG test was "brain surgery." I believed that until I was a teenager.

Yep....they noticed there was something "wrong" with me.



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22 Aug 2015, 8:15 am

They noticed all the signs, but haven't realised until recently how much they effect me. They aren't surprised other than that. I did have the behaviour. No imaginary play, lining things up for hours on end, collecting, etc since before I could walk and since. They just thought I was more borderline autism rather than actually autistic. May be due to the fact I have severely autistic relatives and that's what they thought all autism was.