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I've had some symptoms like childhood meltdowns and special interests for a long time. But now I'm developing bad sensory issues and adult throwing stuff everywhere meltdowns. I kept thinking it was physical because I got headaches too, but general doctor said "take pain meds" and that is what I am doing. The meltdowns are horrible and are occurring when I get agitated... I mean yes, throwing things, yelling at husband, etc... Sensory issues sometimes unbearable...

But I'm told that all I can do is try to calm myself down and to not put myself into stimulating situations. Is there no other hope? I told the crisis worker that I probably can't even shop anymore and he says "shop at night" What kind of solution is that? I've been to the ER so many times over meltdowns with no help, what to do?

You really are responsible for managing your own levels of stress and stimulation. Going to the store at night IS a solution (althouh I usually go at 9:00am on Sunday, the quietest time at my own neighborhood grocery.) What are they doing for you when you go to the ER--giving you meds that calm you down? Maybe you should have a prescription for those, instead of spending so much time in the ER.

The ER gives benzos, like I have at home, which do little. I kept thinking the doctors were lousey, but I don't know why this intensity is coming back like when I was a child. It's threatening my relationship, and it doesn't help when I tell him to leave me alone and he doesn't.

Now that I am on the computer I can elaborate.... maybe as a kid, but not as an adult have I had such bad sensory issues. Right now a loud bug outside is bothering me and I am having to put in earphones, just to block it. And this house has to be dark. I can't live like this, that is why I thought I was having migraines or something but general doctor said that my headache meds should be taking care of all the symptoms of that. And the meltdowns are so horrific my husband should have said good bye a long time ago and I kind of wish he did,

My dad gets migranes and I think I've dodged them thus far as a result of my experience with herbal medicine. Different practices work for different symptoms but it seems to me like placing more trust than you otherwise might in the medical establishment could contribute to your stress. When I can't singlehandedly calm myself down, I remember my tea stash and do so by force!

Greetings Angnix,

How much sleep are you getting? And are you drinking a recommended amount of water every day?

When I lack these things, my sensory issues get worse, and I can't cope with life as easily.

Also, I think you are stressing yourself more by worrying about this issue. Try focusing on a relaxing activity you enjoy without worrying about how type meltdowns are effecting your life. I know, easier said than done.

Also, you could dedicate a room in your house for meltdowns. Take out all breakable objects and dangerous items that are sharp. Put in soft foam rubber objects and cushy furniture like a big comfy chair. Then when you sense you're on the edge of a meltdown, go into that room, and let loose, if you need to. Then chill in that comfy chair afterwards listening to chilled music, or reading your favorite kind of book... guilt free!

I don't know if you have that space in your home, but it seems worth considering.

Are there any other stressful events happening in your life right now? Those could also be a contributing factor.

Take care,
marcb0t

I second that. Also I think you should go do the first exciting thing that comes to mind in the meantime. Sometimes the key to calming one's nerves is as simple as using them differently for a few hours.

They already recommended a room of safe to tear up things, we might be able to do that. I got homework from my caseworker to write about birds everyday, the only thing is they refuse to call it autism, though the therapists do.

Studying simpler organisms has an interesting way of reconciling my thoughts. I've been poking around with my phone camera finding orb weaver spiders all week, it's a nice way to get some air and diversion when you need that as well.

If 33 is your correct age, you might be having hormonal issues. I would talk to a GYN. Maybe the Pill or a natural therapy might help.

I noticed a big change in my hormones in my mid-30s. I started feeling like a teenager again in many ways, physically. The headaches you mention could also be related to hormonal changes. The big thing I noticed was the increase in my emotional sensitivity. My periods also started to become *less* regular. I wouldn't say they became irregular...just different.

It feels sorta like being pregnant (don't know if you ever have been) except less "stable." The teenage feeling has to do with the hormones and accompanying emotional stuff being up-and-down and unpredictable.

I dated an aspie girl in her late 20s who was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and pcos. She couldn't afford treatment and really didn't do anything to try and alleviate her issues. Her emotions were scary at times. She had a lot of the same problems you and Angnix have described.

I was actually thinking about this too. Everyone's body has a unique process for aging. Some people mature and go through certain hormonal milestones earlier than others in life. If nothing else, an OBGYN would be better than an ER doctor.

ER doctors are very good with emergency and general health care, the "Jack of all trades". But they may lack the insight, training and experience of someone in a specific area of medicine.

Good call, nerdygirl!

Maybe you need something like an antipsychotic to calm you down? You should ask your doctor what he thinks about Saphris, maybe it might be a better option than just relying on benzos.

I have pcos that is being treated with a iud, hypothyroidism being treated, and on antip pills. My aunt have me on hormonial herbal meds that made everything worse for some reason.

Have you had recent blood work done? Maybe your levels are off?

You said yourself that you suspected it was physical, but it sounds like the doctor blew you off. Doctors do not always know things, and you are the one most familiar with your own body. It could be that you are right!

In the meantime, I would limit caffeine and try to limit stimuli. My life got a LOT better when I got rid of the TV. Sometimes, I go through periods when I have to limit my intake of the news/current events because I just cannot take it. It increases my "resting rate" of stress, which means that acute, immediate, or urgent forms of stress (including extra stimuli) will send me over the edge into meltdown status. So, I have to try and keep my resting rate low. There are also some helpful soothing/calming herbal teas, like chamomile. Raspberry tea is also good for women's issues.

Finding the right combination of medication can be difficult when you're trying to treat multiple things. Also, I've heard some good things about iuds, but also some horror stories.