Could my brother be Autistic?

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I am a teenage Aspie girl. I have a brother, who is my twin. Thus, we have spent all of our lives together, though varying in how close we are.

As a child, I was the reserved one and he the social one. He had the friends, he asked adults for things, he went out of his way to be liked. But even then, he had some ASD traits. One, stereotypically, was a high skill and interest in math, remarkably so, he recently was the only student in my (small) school to get into Math Olympiads. He had anger issues, and we initially sought therapy for him. My mom says he didn't like to look you in the eye, which I don't remember. But he was much better off than me.

Recently, he's begun acting odd. He doesn't eat with our friends any more, preferring to play a card game 24/7. He constantly berates himself for not communicating well, though everyone else thinks he's doing fine. When he and I are with our friends, we both sit back and have a hard time contributing, though he barely tries. And he actually wants to. He is bothered by everyone regarding him as an "antisocial genius", he wants to be social, but he doesn't try. I'm actually more social than him right now.

Our friends want to know if he is Autistic. My mom thinks he is on the spectrum, but also depressed. He has no sensory issues, unlike me, and is generally expressively empathetic, though.

What do you think?

It sounds as though your brother could be on the spectrum. I would recommend your mother and yourself take him to get a proper diagnosis. He is exhibiting behaviors much like myself when I began questioning if something was different about me. He is most likely depressed because of his frustrations of not knowing how to connect with others- even though he may want to very much. If he receives his diagnosis, it will serve as a starting point for helping him to understand himself and realize that there is nothing really wrong with him, but that he is just different.