Do you feel like your interests are too narrow?

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I've been told before that I'm not cool and boring. People often attribute it to the fact that I'm obsessed with "nerdy" things. I've tried to find a more varied taste in interests and tried to talk to more people but it's very hard. Is it ok to change yourself so people will like you? Maybe i'm just having an identity crisis or something.

No, I do not feel that my special interests are too narrow at all because they are my interests and not for the benefit of anyone else not do they require anyone's approval.

I do but I don't have any Aspie strengths, skills or talents. My interests are mostly my girlfriend, computer, music, TV, & video-games.

No, I think there are a pretty wide range of things that interest me.

I don't feel like they are narrow.
Interests are pretty much infinite.

Mine just are not common.
Many find what I have to say somewhat boring, I glaze eyes over all the time.
Then I get frustrated and mad at them for not understanding me.
I don't really get the regular conversation flow well. Most of the time it's 90% the other person talking.
When I do get a chance I smash too much together into a few statements that confuse everyone, even me sometimes.
Or if I do make sense, I am an information firehose and get the "deer in the headlights" look.

I guess since I don't have much of a social life.
Not many of my interests are typically "fun".
Mostly intellectual.

Most folks out there have interests are are commonly considered "fun".

Sadly, I have forgotten what "fun" is.
I may occasionally joke, but only cynical commentary to decorate the misery.

OK, I have, my cat, he's awesome.
My best friend in the world.

But humans need other humans also.
It's hard though to reach out to a world that has rejected me so often.
A person stops caring what others have to say after years of nobody caring what they have to say.
As it appears nobody really cares much what anyone has to say.
Look around.
We humans are so full of ourselves.
Walk by any conversation, or group......me me me me me.
I don't blame them.
I'm pretty selfish, I don't want to talk to me either.

not feeling well today.
Had enough of summer.
Hot, dry, sunny, drives me absolutely bonkers.
Good thing I have family.

I'm actually a lot nicer when it's cool & rainy.
It's kinda weird. Regular Jekyll & Hyde.

No, I have oodles of interests. Too many, in fact! Most people would consider my interests to be boring though.

While it's nice to share interests with others, I don't think it's worth it to try to cultivate an interest just for that reason. (Especially since you said you like like computers, music, TV, and video-games, and those aren't really rare interests. If you're only interest was something unusual and specific, like photographing outhouses or whatever, it'd make sense you'd want to branch out for the sake of connecting with others. Or even if you had a normal but less common interest, like paleontology, that might still be true.) Most people are only interest in a few things and will still find your interests boring after you add new ones. Heck, even though I have "too many" interests, I still find most things boring. And adding more interests to your plate will take your resources away from the other things you already love.

Well, if you are going to add more interests just for other people, the most efficient option (in terms of how many people will care) is to become an enthusiastic spectator of one of the two most popular sports in your region.

My answer is both yes and no. It is rare when I develop an interest in something (or someone), but when I do, I stick to it until the end. It doesn't mean I exclude everything else from my life, I just put them into my "other stuff" category, and deal with them a lot less. I think it is important to have our priorities: they make us who we are. Besides, we only have 24 hours a day, so we can't do everything that exists.

I don't think my interests are narrow. I have a few main interests, but I'm interested in a lot of different things. I have at least a mild interest in most things.

My interests are very narrow. I like anything to do with computers, including video editing, programming, listening to music, watching movies/series or playing games. Aside from that? I don't really have any other interests. Every once in a while a new "big interest" comes along, which I invest a tonne of time into, but I usually get bored of it 2-4 months later. For example, karate was one of the things I had a huge level of interest in a year or two ago. I went to all the lessons and practiced in my spare time, I read the syllabus numerous times, I looked up translation manuals so I'd know all of the karate words in Japanese, I read the history on lots of different karate styles etc. Outside of the times where I get a new 'big interest' though, my interests are 'very' narrow.

My interests may be narrow but given the amount of interests I ever had I gathered enough topics to talk about so I can't complain anymore. Especially since I got quite a few new interests recently - they tend to change every a few months now, not every a few years like they used to. I am also open to try new things now, unlike before.

The last true "narrow, special interest" was when I was 23. Literally all I could talk about was an MMOgame I was spending 14h a day and didn't want to socialize because I would either bore people or be forced to talk about stuff I knew nothing about. And socializing was a waste of time because I would have to stop playing and met people instead .

Nerdy stuff has become fairly popular depending on the crowd. You don't necessarily have to change your interests, but you can talk to other people about theirs or talk about something more on their level. An example is that some people might be willing to talk about computers, but they're not technicians and would have a hard time in a conversation with a lot of jargon or that includes things only technicians would know about.

My actual interests are broad, but the situations I like to socialize in and the things I like to socialize over are narrow. I'll do the small talk thing for awhile in good spirits, but I tend not to initiate it.

No, they can be a lot but just uncommon, unusual or weird, or obsessive at times.

I wouldn't say mine is narrow, just morbid. For the longest while I've had a deep interest in devices of torture and execution from the Middle Ages to feudal Japan to Genghis Khan to Biblical Times. I've seen many NSFW videos, read Martyrs Mirror, seen many horror films and basically immersed myself in extremely violent content over the years. What's my fascination with violence? I don't know since I'm not a violent person at all. In fact I'm a Jain and extremely pro-peace. I guess it just fascinates how mankind has such little respect for each other.