Aversion to certain languages

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When I was very young, I refused to speak the dialect of my native language. When I turned 7, I started using English almost exclusively, then continued studying in bilingual schools. As a teenager, I moved to another country. The past decade has been hell for me...I have an aversion for this language and I choose to only speak English. I can speak the new language fluently, but it 'hurts', so people get mad at me because I speak English instead, even though they understand me perfectly.

Other languages I can't stand hearing at all. Whenever I hear Chinese, I have to cover my ears; same with Russian.

Some other languages have perfect sounds. Japanese is perfect, I could listen to it all day long, even though I don't understand it. English is second, but maybe because I've been using it as a tool to understand the world (TV series).

Does anyone else have this problem? Did you ever find a good excuse? People think I'm lazy or stubborn because I don't speak their language. I've always thought that if they can understand me, and I can understand them, what's the problem?

My ears are also sensitive to the patterns of different languages AND accents.

Here in the US, I grew up in the northeast. I find the NY & Boston accents very comforting and familiar.
But the "southern drawl", is irritating to me like fingers on a chalk board.

But there are long time cultural wounds that remain 150 years later here.

As far as languages.
French sounds drunk to me.
almost makes me nauseous.
Kinda funny because my ancestry is french.

Asian languages, especially Chinese are too sharp and harsh.
So are the middle eastern languages.

While meditating outside once I discovered I really dislike the sound of people talking in general, and I find it annoying when I hear people talking in a language I don't understand because I hear the talking, but not the words. Anyway, I find certain accents grating, but not languages.

I have it too.
But I don't want to discuss it.

I also love the sound of Japanese. I can speak it at a beginning level. If you speak English, the sounds in Japanese are mostly the same, with the messier ones removed. Like there's no "th" or "sh." It would be "ta," "sa," "za." The words don't end on a consonant unless the consonant is "n."

eat = taberu (tah - bay - roo)
fish = sakana (just how it looks)
coffee = kohi (koh - hee)
computer = komputaa (how it looks)
Japan = Nihon (nee-ho-nn)

It sounds cleaner to me than other languages.

Chinese is supposed to have sounds that non-native speakers cannot hear. If you have sensitive hearing, you might be hearing the extra sounds and that is why it's painful.

I LOVE the way japanese sounds. Korean sounds meh and confuses me sometimes. I don't like Mandarin. I find Vietnamese and Indonesian to sound better, but I like the writing system for Thai the best. LOL I think German sounds very harsh, but I like the language. I like Russian over Ukrainian and then DON"T like polish at all.
I like French but despise Spanish and Italian and Portuguese. I LOVE latin and greek tho. I also LOVE the way Icelandic sounds : ). I think it is an amazing language up their with japanese for me.
English is great I love English too, but hate spelling- which I am very poor at. : /.
I don't really have an opinion on Arabic or Farsi, but think that Turkish is super cool and would love to learn a Native American language, preferably Lakota.

Aversion: Cantonese, Portuguese, African American Vernacular English

Don't get actual sensory issues over languages like the OP. First time I have ever heard of such a thing!

But dialects and languages do have differing asthetic qualities.

I like Spanish, Portugese, and Italian. All are very melodic. Especially Italian.

Spanish is the emphatic twin of laid back Portugese. Both are pleasing in their own way.

French is neither melodic (like Italian), nor rhythmic (like English), and doesn't do much for me.

German is harsh, and not particularly asthetic.

An Irish brogue can be quite pleasing.

Japanese is kinda cool sounding. They can't utter a word unless its consonant-vowel-consonant-vowel. So its fun to hear what how they shoe horn American English words into their language like baseburu (bas-AH-booroo)( a certain sport), boyfriendu/girlfriendu, and stuff like that.

Weirdly, I have the opposite: I absolutely love to listen to other languages. It is almost hypnotic to me. It's sort of a rhythm. I feel as if I'm rocking gently on a boat when I hear people speaking another language, as long as they're speaking calmly.

If things get loud, animated, angry, excited, etc., I can't stand hearing it, though - in any language.

I love listening to people talk from a distance. I don't really like it if I'm in the same room, but I have always loved sitting or lying in another room and hearing the rise and fall of calm conversation. As a child I would leave the room at parties to hear the conversations from that distance. Everyone thought that was weird, naturally.

I still love to lie on my bed or my son's bed and hear my sons and husband talking in the living room. I can physically feel it, like a warmth or a tingle, and it eventually becomes semi-hypnotizing.

I really love the sounds of Polish, French, and Japanese.

Sometimes when people speak in Hindi, their voices sound metallic to me and I don't like it.

I'm the opposite. I'm a southerner and I like to hear southern accents. I don't like to hear Yankee accents, it sets me on edge. Those old wounds do run deep.

my mother was Japanese, I grew up hearing her speak it with her friends [and ONLY her friends as she avoided speaking it around us kids unless she was mad at us ("UDASAI NAH!! !"). listening to sakamoto kyu singing "ue o muite aruko" ("I look up when I walk") is to my ears sublime. Italian and Spanish to me sound passionate, vital, earthy. Scottish sounds like "don't eff with me!" especially with the growl-like burr going on. Gaelic has a singsong quality that is soothing and lullaby-like. listening to elvis sing "muss I denn" likewise was soothing. Mexican/Puerto Rican dialect of Spanish to me sounds threatening. same for southern accents/northeastern accents for the most part, probably due to residual PTSD from being around army thugs who generally spoke with those types of sound ("whassup, freeboi?"). I realize this last part is less than fully rational, but fear does weird things with one's thinking.

Oh yes. I had to look this up to be sure it was the song I thought it was, I didn't know it by name, but I remembered it immediately. I've always loved it. That is some of the most beautiful singing ever recorded.

I also really like the Japanese singer Lia.

beautiful but sad, its author wrote it after being dumped by his GF.

I had a Korean male roommate for a time. He was an excellent guitarist and he would play and sing Korean folk songs for hours. I would lie on my bed and listen....soooooo wonderful!! !

Btw, I know that sounds REALLY gay but I don't care.

Post-vocalic R sounds are horrible, and nowhere more than in Welsh.

R's in the post-vowel position occur very frequently in Welsh spelling. The effect of actually pronouncing them is impossibly tongue twisting, in words that are not tongue twisting at all if you don't pronounce the R. Most Welsh accents are "non-rhotic" (not pronouncing such R's) when speaking English, yet the political purists for Welsh require it pronounced "rhotically". So exactly the same voices stop and struggle with it, as are straightforwardly non-rhotic when speaking English. TV announcers and newsreaders and in Wales are forced to pronounce Welsh placenames rhotically even when they are speaking English, thus to force their mouths jarringly to stumble over saying "AbeRRpoRRth" and "MeRRthyRR Tydfil" in the middle of serious reports.

It gave me an ear against hearing post-vocalic R's anywhere, and a militancy that they should not exist and there is a human right to be understood in any language without pronouncing them. R shares with H and the W and Y consonants the property that it does not work as a sound in the post-vowel position, it's a sound that naturally rolls into a vowel. English in its adaptable way has picked up and absorbed that fact, subject to regional variants. So have the East Asian languages that avoid using consonant clusters.

I have trouble listening to French for the same reason. The worst and third worst schools I was in were both French immersion schools. Even now, hearing my name pronounced with a French accent makes me tense up.