Thought Persistance and Low Tolerance

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So, this is a unique context for me because I'm actually experiencing this problem while I type the post. I'd be interested to hear if anyone shares a similar experience, and if so, has taken any successful steps in addressing it.

I have very particular thoughts as to how the world should be, and when people say or do things that seem to contradict those values, I experience a negative mental reaction, and unlike what most people would do, I do not let it go. I immediately transform the thought into a vague yet powerful resolve to do something, whether that's actually constructive or just telling someone off. The strange thing about it is that once this resolve forms, it will persist and dominate my head space until the matter or person is directly confronted.

This behavior, when I delay action, causes me to strangle my mind for up to several hours (or days, in the worst cases) for a matter that becomes retrospectively trivial. However, in that moment, in those hours, that matter becomes EVERYTHING. And I do mean everything, as if my entire existence hinged on it. I am simply unwilling to let go. I know it is related to thought persistance, which I've always had, but this behavior only emerged about five years ago. It coincided with greater self-confidence.

Does anyone else suffer or has suffered from a similar affliction? How have you addressed it to work for you, rather than against you?

As a kid I had trouble with letting go of thoughts like this, nowadays it's not much of a problem anymore.

I'm prone to that too, because it seems to me like other people are always breaking their own rules of ethics and morality (not just mine!)

I tell myself to "choose my battles", focus on the ones that are worth fighting, and let the rest go.