Hugging, Cuddling

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I struggle to understand why a lot of people seem to like hugging and cuddling. I have virtually no desire for it. I was understand the impression lack of being wanted to be hugged and cuddled was an autistic thing and thought of myself being fairly autistic.

Yeah, that's something Spectrumites do. At least, when it's negative stimming. If it's positive stimming, it's obviously enjoyable to us.

And what about huggling?

I used to not be able to stand it (even as early as kindergarten) but within the last year or two, it's become a bit more natural. I've grown up with a major lack of hugs, though, so that could probably be why it felt ackward. But for some reason lately, a lot of random people seem to be giving me hugs... Then again, people will run up to me at the store to tell me how adorable I am.

Hugging is something a lot of teenage girls like to do when they greet someone. I got used to it.

I initiated and hugged a friend today. It was the second time ever I hugged a friend rather then had someone squeez me. Afterwards I thought I got it all wrong, I was worried she might think I fancy her. Well anyway, I'm not going to do that again for a while.

I don't mind with my husband, but with everyone else, including my family, I freeze if they hug me.

GEE, I never saw that. That might have made highschool worthwhile.

I'm not crazy about hugs, but if a cute girl hugged me then, I certainly wouldn't turn away.

Steve

My thoughts exactly. I feel embarassed asking this, but what exactly is cuddling?

It is something I constantly yearn for as I am very much alone in my real life...in fact, apart from a few quick hugs from my mother when I visited her recently, I have not had a hug from anyone else from a year. It can be a cold life, lol.

Yet, I found that when hugged too long, I got fidgety and uncomfortable. It depends who hugs me really. I am most amenable to being hugged or comforted that way when I am in such a bad state that I am clawing for any comfort lol.

I love getting hugs. But there are times with certain people I can't handle them. sometimes I hate being touched. Especially unexpectedly, sometimes I jump when they do. I cannot handle my little brothers touching me and I lecture them about not doing it..

man, I could use a good hug. I almost feel guilty sometimes for wanting to touch someone in some way, because (irrational I know) I feel like I'm not supposed to want that contact because I'm scared of it being sexual, but I know the truth is it's not. I just want physical affection. I want to put my arm around someone and feel them being there with me. In fact, when I think about my desire for a girlfriend, its not about kissing. It used to be. But now when I think about what would be best about a girlfriend is just being able to put my arm around someone or give her a hug.

I mean, sometimes just the act of putting your hand on someones shoulder is so reassuring. I guess I'm only now realizing that. Today I touched alot of people---that sounds weird when I say it, but I mean in a socially acceptable way. when I passed people and said hi I would just tap or pat them casually. I think this is also good to quicken the bonding process with people, so I think from now on I am going to try to touch people more often, if only to make friendships come along faster.

the other day a girl put her arm out for a side hug and erring on the side of caution I put out my hand to shake hers. Then realizing it was a hug I got a great hug from her that I knew was genuine. Thats the important part, so many girls just give hugs but when I get a genuine one I feel awesome

Last edited by Juggernaut on 06 Apr 2007, 2:58 pm, edited 1 time in total.

If I'm TOO anxious/nervous or TOO hyper,I don't like to hug or cuddle,but I really do like it,actually. Especially if the person is fat.


-SpaceCase

i like hugs from my significant other...

sometimes, i feel like i would go as far as to say i'd like to be attached to them like a pa-poos (sp?)

i don't like hugging my parents at all

Yeah..I can only stand hugging and cuddling with my boyfriend...I can't stand hugs from strangers or even friends....i don't really like being touched by them at all.

I don't hug and I'm tired of pretending that I do when people approach me for one, ugh. It brings out the germophobe in me.

NO MORE HUGGING!