Do I really Have Aspergers?

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I've been seeing a psychiatrist who said that he does not want to give me a label/diagnosis, because for him his duty is to help make people feel better and not put on a stereotyped notion. After insisting to see the results of my psych test, I saw on the Axis I, Major Depressive Disorder
Axis II, Borderline Personality Disorder and Passive-Aggressive
Axis-III can't remember
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Well, after a heartbreaking reality seeing "Borderline" on my results, he told me that a psych test is not a real determinant of what I am. It also depends on what I feel during the time I took it. And even so, he won't formally diagnose me with a personality disorder until he's known me for years already.

I've been better with my depression and anxiety than before though but the reality that I am still struggling socially keeps me looking for a reason why I am this. Yes, I've been traumatized about how my dad and mom fought with each other verbally when I was younger, but other than that, I can find some symptoms in Borderline Personality that explains why I've got troubles with verbal instructions, why I can't understand what other people speak between the lines, why I love routines, why I enjoy my own company and with animals more than with people, why I speak in a soft slow monotone no matter what I do (*sigh* frustrated singer here), why I love spirit science, music, and Owl city so much, why ? I'm tired. Phew

You are at an age in which is difficult to accurately diagnose Aspergers. Aspergers can be easily confused with adult mental health issues that often show up at your age for the first time.

Well, I guess it'll take time for my Psychiatrist to give an accurate say to what my condition is. Much like a growing tumor as I wait. Idk at all. Maybe I'll just learn socializing.

Confusing women on the spectrum with borderline personality disorder is so common, it's a bad steriotype. Are you a woman? And if so, have you tried finding an evaluator who specializes in that?

Assuming money is an issue for you like it is for most of us, and that your current shrink is just ill informed and not deliberately being an ass (which seems likely, based on what you are saying here) I would talk to him about this more.

First off, I would prepare something written for him. Autism is a communication disorder. People on the spectrum get by by learning how to be "socially appropriate." The problem with this is that it's hard for us to go off script when its called for. We don't often realize how much we are expressing what we think we should express instead of what we really feel, until we just can't anymore and have a meltdown - hense the confusion with borderline and bi-polar.

What you need to do is research the traits of autism, especially how they show up in women, and write down how you meet or don't meet those criteria. Some people make a chart. If you want to be fair, you can do so with boarderline and bi-polar as well. Give this document to your shrink. And then watch him. He should at least take your concerns seriously. He might have something new to point out to you. He might agree with you. He's likely to take the paper and look it over for later. If he refuses to work with you like this, its time for a new shrink.

He's an article about women and mis-diagnosis:

http://aspertypical.com/2013/06/12/the- ... nd-autism/

You may need to go to a wealthy neighborhood to find a specialist who is really good at diagnosing what you think you have.

Uh... Can I ask what kind of wealthy neighborhoods do I need to see?

In Connecticut, being able to pay out of pocket gives you access to doctors who don't take insurance. West Hartford is a popular address for such doctors.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/West_Hart ... onnecticut
In 2010, Kiplinger's Personal Finance magazine listed West Hartford as one of the nation's "10 Great Cities for Raising Families."[3] In 2010, Kiplinger's ranked West Hartford #9 on its "10 Best Cities for the Next Decade" list.[4] In 2010, CNN Money ranked West Hartford as the 55th best small city in America.[5] In 2010, the national online magazine Travelandleisure.com cited West Hartford as one of 10 "coolest" suburbs in the nation. The magazine called the West Hartford Reservoir off Farmington Avenue "West Hartford's version of Central Park,"[6] and it also noted the town's "vacation-worthy hot spots, with cutting-edge restaurants, great shopping, and plenty of parking."[7]

That would be too bad. I know that my dyspraxia is sometimes mistaken for being on the spectrum rather than off the spectrum. Sorry to hear about your situation. Hope you can find answers to your dilemma.