Hating people in your space

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I kind of get drained by people in general, but it gets way worse if they're in my space. I can somewhat deal with my family when they're in the rest of the house, but when they're in my area my energy gets drained like crazy.

Me too. I am very very selective about who can be in my space.

Yes, and it's getting worse with time. My mother had her own room, even though married, and now I do, too.

When I was in school and the teacher stood behind me while trying to write.. EHH....

In uni I used to avoid sitting next to other (even friendly) students because I'd get seriously distracted.

It's hard to think straight while people are talking/moving around me.
In middle school I said to a girl a few times "when you talk I lose my train of thought".

I used to get very annoyed when people got on my side of the table in school, but I've learned to tolerate it more.

When people are in the same room as me it's like there's a potential that they will open their mouth or do something distracting, eventually... and that's sometimes enough to annoy me.
But at other times I'm able to ignore them... as long as they aren't talking.

Same here. At school and family gatherings I try to keep my distance.

Most of the time when a person gets too physically close to me, it gives me a feeling kind of like when you try to put the wrong ends of a magnet together.

This is a very good description of what my skin feels like when people get too close to me/touch me. I'll have to borrow it the next time it comes up.

It really bothers me when I am sitting at a table having dinner and someone is in my elbow room, same thing in movie theatres when someone takes my arm rest. I will try and sit as far away from others as possible.

Yep, this is what I've been telling people for years now as well.

It makes sense, a neurologist told me once that it's useful to remember that humans DO have their own magnetic field - there's a reason EMG tests exist after all (and likewise biomagnetism is science, not conjecture).

What's to say that two humans cannot sense one another's magnetic field when one gets within someone else's space? I think it happens for sure. My husband gets closer than 6 feet away from me and it gets more and more uncomfortable. If he sits on the same couch as me I must get up and leave the room. I can't help it, I just can't be there. It pushes me out like an opposite magnet. He gets offended but I can't control my magnetic field (OR his)!

I'm not keen on the feeling I get when someone is within very close proximity to me.

It makes me feel awkward more than anything.

It's worse when I'm on the bus and someone sits on the seat next to me. This is because when it's my turn to get off the bus it means I have to communicate with that person and so the whole of my journey is dedicated to me running through different scenarios of how I'm going to navigate my way past this passenger so I can get off the bus and all the time hoping that they will get off first.

But then when it comes to it I just simply say "excuse me" and that's that. All my worry has been for nothing.

It doesn't matter how old I get, the panic, and anxiety of this just doesn't cease.

I really dislike it when I have to sit next to someone I don't know in a movie theater. They usually take over the arm rest as if it belongs totally to them.

What really bothers me the most though is if I'm moving around doing something, and someone is standing near me and I have to keep walking around them or waiting for them to move.

I like this description too! haha,
I HATE!! !! !! !! ! when people try to touch me, makes me SO angry and I want to punch them in the face.

Moreso, when people purposefully transgress these clearly stated boundaries out of a lack of respect for the wishes and/or needs of the other person!! That drives me up a wall and simply enrages me.
But then I just sit there and stew in my own silent rage... fuming.....

If people are in my space, I get very irritable... RRRrrrr! Too many people cough without covering their mouths. Have virii and colds and don't care about infecting others. They touch everything (as you can see I have major contamination fears!) People also stare and are nosy and snoop. So overall, I can't stand most people being around!

I was at Sam's club the other day and I was at the checkout register, the self serve one, not the one with a cashier, and I had one item, a box of cookies that I bought as a treat for me and my husband. There was a older man and his wife and they were standing on either end of their cart. She was far from me at the handle end and he was close to me at the other end. But they had pushed the cart so close to me that it was almost touching me and he was standing so close to me that he was practically leaning on me. He commented on how my cookies are not good for me. I was doing everything I could for him not to see my pin number as I punched it in. I was so uncomfortable I could not think of anything to say to them until I was out of the store. I just hurried up and got out of there. But for me that was WAY TOO CLOSE.

I hate it!
one that sticks in my mind was when got the courage to ask my sons instructor a question about a note that was on the wall, she stood sort of beside me and leaned her face so close to mine and stared at my eyes, I wanted to run and hide and I did not know how to respond, when she walked away she made a comment 'I have to stop flirting with girls'. I did not get that message at all.

I detest it when they feel the need to touch you...it stays with you such long after.