Being organized and responsible takes lots of energy

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Do you find being organized and being responsible I.e. Remembering an appointment and even being organized to remember things like appointments takes a lot of energy and effort compared to most people? I find this sort of thing takes A LOT of effort for me. I was wondering if others relate on here?

I totally relate. It takes a lot of energy and also stresses me out. Others on WP have said the same and sometimes call it executive dysfunction.

Yes!!
I have a lot of appointments that I need to schedule for the kids and myself, trying to organise a schedule that works is so taxing. Even the mental work of turning up to the appointment and getting the timing right, the necessary paperwork and parking is so taxing.

...Previously one of mom's from schools asked 'what are you doing today?' and I mentioned that I had an appointment for my daughter at 12pm For a hearing assessment. The reply was oh **** has an appointment at 9.30am, you've got all day and can have lunch while your there...lucky you!

I did not feel lucky, I felt overwhelmed by the fact that it was going to be busy at that time of day and had to time it to pick my daughter up from school, find parking and get back in time to collect my son. Also knowing that I had no downtime to recover before collecting my son, ensured the evening wasn't going to go wel

Yup, definitely. Sometimes my whole day is wasted if I have appointments in the afternoon. I'm all agitated and can't collect my thoughts.

Yup, drives me nuts. I try to keep these things on a schedule (dentist in January and July, physicals in August, therapist on Thursdays, etc.) because then it becomes routine and I'm not quite such a mess constantly checking my card organizer. Let the schedule change, though (kid needs to go back for a filling in February, therapist is full up on Thursday, schedule two weeks in advance on a different day), and things get messed up and I'm a nervous wreck.

People talk and talk and talk about social skills and "acting normal" like they're the most important things. Executive dysfunction can make navigating life a lot more taxing than it needs to be.

I'm STILL thinking nasty thoughts about the soccer coach who decided, back in August, to have a floating schedule for practices all fall.

For me it depends on my interest in the activity or meeting.

Appointments/obligations are always a huge pain in the ass!

Any type. I always have to make sure I don't forget.
If I don't take notes I will probably forget.
If I don't think about it constantly before having taken the note, I will probably forget, I can't fully concentrate on anything else.
And then I have to remember to look at the note...

Every time when there was some kind of announcement like "next week we will have a special meeting" I felt extremely uneasy.
And I still do, I even hate predictable appointments because it interferes with what I really want to do, but I think that's just normal lol.
It's like any type of obligation interferes with my thoughts being "free".

example:
*thinks stuff happily* "but tomorrow I have to go there" *annoyance that I have to remember and can't just do what I want when I go*

Whelp.....

It cripples my Aspie husband. If he has two doctors appointments during the day, it throws his whole routine off.

I'm a NT, and it is hard for me between my stuff, our kids never ending school nonsense, and helping out my husband, I'm fried some days.

And I have almost everything programmed into an app on my smartphone.

You are not alone.