Do you dread being confused

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Do you hate feeling confused, like when something you feel like should make sense but you don't understand? I think I get most angry when that happens... Sometimes I think I'm mad at something else on the surface but deaper down, this is the reason.

I hate confusion. Understanding is important to me, so in a sense being confused provides an opportunity to learn, but I dislike the feeling of it too. It makes me all frustrated and frazzled and anxious if there is a lot of confusion around. I prefer clean, streamlined, clear interaction.

Frustration follows confusion.

I don't think anyone likes being confused ... I get mad when I'm confused too, because I'm frustrated, like Ezra said. I get pretty confrontational too sometimes, especially with my husband if he's trying to explain something like driving directions or something.

I used to be confused and then still have enough good cheer left over to be amicable about it, but now most days I get very angry and short with people when I feel as though they are being unnecessarily abstruse or unclear or difficult. However, I wish I could get back to a point where I'm less angry about my being angry.

Beat me to it. There's nothing good about that mental state, and I think it's safe to say that no one likes it.

I want to go on about the topic, but what you said is perfect.

What I've noticed with me is two types of confusion for me.
(A) I can intuitively grasp a concept, but not the details to get to the solution. This happened a lot recently when teaching myself programming.
(1) That can actually be pleasurable as it gives me something to dive into deeply and sort all the details. As long as I'm working alone. It plays to my natural strengths and can be relieving.

(2) Not pleasurable in the company of others. Feel put on the spot and cannot flow with the added information as it's constantly being tossed into the mix.

(B) My entire life is a daily walk of confusion when it comes to people. They are just so contradictory. And, that is never pleasurable. Especially as I get older. I just don't get things without cultural touchstones and references. My life is a map and they took another fork than me.