Takes an Aspie to know an Aspie

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I think there is a lot in the saying 'Birds of a feather, flock together'.

I think it takes an Aspie to know one.

I have come to this conclusion because before I knew I had AS, I had made friends throughout my life and the ones I remain closest too are Aspies mostly!

It was only after I came out and told my friends that I suddenly found my close friend from school has just discovered he very likely has Aspergers as well as ADD/ADHD, two people that I am very close to have AS and the other has ADD with a good selection of AS traits and my best friend right now has borderline if not full AS status.

Anyone else found that we automatically link up with other Aspies, even if unknowlingly?

I haven't known any. So I can't say....

If I had to pick someone to try and flock with, it'd be the quiet one in the corner who looks as withdrawn as I do.

Not instinctually, but you can recognise them easier than other people. Though I tend to find other Aspies annoying.

I that way too! I have 17 friends and they all have Asperger's! I just find I don't have to work so hard to understand them. NTs make it so difficult sometimes!

Oh, I've found aspie type personalities to be immensely social when they're among their own. Seriously, I've known them to travel hundreds of miles just to play Magic and tinker with antiquated videogaming equipment among people of like mind. You want a technological golden age? Lock a bunch of aspies into a roomful of research equipment and hot pockets, and, for every new innovation they crank out, slip a rare gamepiece under the door. It would work because, while aspies are not anti-social, they need a firm medium through which to interact. NTs don't seem to understand this, and, as a result, they get the impression that the aspie is anti-social. It's like getting women to understand the idea that men aren't anti-social just because they talk about their common interests all the time instead of "expressing their feelings." Aspies do express their feelings and compete for social dominance, but they do it through more strict, ritualized routes.

So yeah, it would make sense for aspies to flock with their own.

I can see another aspie coming a mile away. I usually try to avoid them by becoming invisible until they pass by. I am sure happy they are out there though. They are just a bit too over stimulating in person for my aspie traits. However, sometimes I make exceptions. And I do post on WP so that says something else entirely.

ive seen a few people around town with aspergers, we dont talk though
it would be to akward anyways

I don't get it. Why would we "flock" with any group?
I really don't want to spend any time with anyone, really. The limit of my social behaviour is talking to people on the internet - faceless people that I can disconnect when I want to and don't feel like I have to do some weird social dance with that I don't understand.

But then I've never understood these AS support groups - I've always though it would be 20 people in a room all sitting by themselves.

Thats really cool Julie