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19 Nov 2015, 4:35 am

Do you cry often? I hardly ever cry, though i am upset and sad often. The last time i cried was briefly after someone i liked left where i work. That was not in work but at home afterwords. Rarely i shed a tear at some almost random not even necessarily sad thing in a film or something, but other than that nothing.
When i was about 15 i cried myself to sleep almost every night. Maybe having wet pillows and nothing changing made me stop bothering with crying.
What kinds of things do you cry at?


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19 Nov 2015, 4:59 am

InsomniaGrl wrote:
Do you cry often? I hardly ever cry, though i am upset and sad often. The last time i cried was briefly after someone i liked left where i work. That was not in work but at home afterwords. Rarely i shed a tear at some almost random not even necessarily sad thing in a film or something, but other than that nothing.
When i was about 15 i cried myself to sleep almost every night. Maybe having wet pillows and nothing changing made me stop bothering with crying.
What kinds of things do you cry at?


I posted a similar question a while ago cause I was crying a lot due to depression and still am/do.

I've been crying a lot cause I was a member of a church and had friends and they disowned me for lack of a better word. The pastor who knew I was autistic accused me of a bunch of stuff and said I use autism as an excuse and that has been hard to swallow. I think its the most hurtful thing anyone has told me and I am still not over it. I not sensitive really, I've been cursed out before and it didn't hurt as bad as this. I suppose it is what it is, nothing I can do about it now but move on.

Also unrelated - OMG the spam - I almost didn't see your post.



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19 Nov 2015, 5:09 am

I still cry. But not usually over situations like a sad scene in a movie or even someone dying. Usually it's in pain like when I get a migraine or in frustration like in speech therapy.



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19 Nov 2015, 8:51 am

I often cry. I wish I were not so sensitive, but I am.



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19 Nov 2015, 8:53 am

I'm pretty sensitive inwardly--but outwardly, I'm pretty stoic most of the time. I show more irritation than sadness, usually.



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19 Nov 2015, 8:59 am

For a man, yes I do although less than the average woman. Why do you think I got beaten up so much in school? I cried a lot as a child mostly because I could not understand why my relatives treated me so poorly compared to my brother and always blatantly favoured him. I was not and still am not aware of what I could have done to have such hostile reactions from Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents and Cousins.



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19 Nov 2015, 9:08 am

I cry a lot over the most mundane things. When I was little I used to cry when I saw animal skins and stuffed animals in museums. I once had a terrible meltdown when I saw a pair of two adorable fawns in a display case and read the little plaque that bluntly told me how they died. My mum was quite sharp with me that day, and I was so hurt and bewildered that I eventually managed to stop crying.
However, lately I've been much happier than usual, which is great.


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19 Nov 2015, 9:12 am

If I dared cried after the age of about five, I was called a crybaby.

Things you didn't do when you are a young child: cry, and rat on your friends.



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19 Nov 2015, 9:18 am

^I cried all the time when I was young, especially when I had meltdowns and went to school.


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19 Nov 2015, 9:27 am

Sometimes, I dunno. I think the medication makes me quicker to tear up. Just thinking about my life situation, frustrated and overwhelmed. It's hard, I expend all my energy just trying to do what normal adults do but I fail hard at it.



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19 Nov 2015, 10:04 am

I am extremely sensitive and cry a lot. I get overwhelmed with emotions even about small things that no one else might even notice.


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19 Nov 2015, 11:03 am

I have not cried in over 20 years. Perplexes everybody around me. And, it has caused no shortage of derision from people in certain situations.

But, no matter how much pain I feel emotionally, no tears.


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19 Nov 2015, 1:04 pm

I don't cry much anymore.


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19 Nov 2015, 1:51 pm

InsomniaGrl wrote:
Do you cry often? I hardly ever cry, though i am upset and sad often. The last time i cried was briefly after someone i liked left where i work. That was not in work but at home afterwords. Rarely i shed a tear at some almost random not even necessarily sad thing in a film or something, but other than that nothing.
When i was about 15 i cried myself to sleep almost every night. Maybe having wet pillows and nothing changing made me stop bothering with crying.
What kinds of things do you cry at?

I have like a sadness reservoir or something and when it tips over I cry.
I just bury everything and seem stoic as f**k on the outside. Everyone tells me they have a hard time reading me haha I can't read them so I suppose it is equal. I do have a hard time with emotions I've had the hardest time labeling how I feel lately.
I will cry from happiness at the stupidest things.
For example, my friend who I am very fond of but don't get to see because they live like 16hrs away by plan sent me a txt message asking about work and said they would be coming over for holiday and I got so happy that I just started crying in the middle of the street. I curled up into a ball and just cried and rocked back and forth so I removed myself from public view at that point LOL!
But I was just so overcome!
All emotions like that kind of just push me over.
As a kid I was picked on ALOT for being overly emotional and reacting to my surroundings too much so I learned to lock it all away.
So I never really cry especially not at sad s**t. It's a weakness lol (don't believe that but that's the prevailing cultural image) or if I cry people think I am PMSing (you know because a female can't actually show emotions because then they are just "crazy" or whatever and nothing they say gets taken seriously)even though I'm not.
But I tend to have super delayed crying or like some emotional latency or deadness or something.
Like I broke up with someone and I was just like okay whatever for literally months and then like 4 months later I just started crying and got very sad- like a damn broke or something and now I'm still kind of feeling the after effects of that- emotional landscape = screwed up!!



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19 Nov 2015, 1:54 pm

For what it is worth I have literally never in my entire life seen a male cry ever not past the age of 3? Basically after all that cultural BS conditioning kicks in.



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19 Nov 2015, 2:53 pm

Somewhat rare for me to cry now but I cried all the time as a child and a lot as a teenager.