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I had something strange happen to me today on the train. I was sitting in one of those two seaters at the end of the train. I was against the rail. There was this person standing there and the way her height and the spacing of the rails worked out, I was getting a lot of butt on my shoulder. So, it's crowded, I soldier on. But as the train started emptying, she just stayed there. Started to annoy me and eventually started thinking really hard about how rude it was to be smashing her butt against me when she had plenty of room.

The next thing I know, she moves and when she sits down I see the furrowed brows, squinty eyes and upside down mouth right at me as she sat. Never looked where she was sitting but kept her eyes on me. Then popped her paper and started reading again.......

OK...
1) is this just odd?
2) Am I being paranoid?
3) There have been instances of vocalizations I am not aware of recently. And, I have had people reply to me in the past (not an answer. Just asking what I said).......So, is this starting to come out more?

And, if it is, it scares me a bit. For instance if I am working and really focusing and then get interrupted my mind immediate goes to, "What the hell? I'm working here...don't you see me working? I'm thinking!! !"
If I take time to process it it comes out, "Not now...give me a minute."
So, what if the unfiltered version comes out? And, I did leave out the choice words in the above that would also run through my head.

Maybe she liked having her butt on your shoulder.

Dunno if that's a joke or observation.......I didn't care for it though.....

It was sort of tongue in cheek with some seriousness.

Maybe it was some awkward pass, and you didn't, in fact utter anything.

Huh....would not have thought that. I mean, when you get the Clint Eastwood, 'Man with no name' look, I never thought of that......
I did get yelled at by a woman once when I was 20. She got in my face about something, turned around and kissed my friend next to me big time. Then stormed off. I asked him what that was all about. He said that she'd been hitting on me all night and was pissed I didn't respond to her. So, maybe there is validity in what you say.

I don't get people.

l really think the lady was oblivious to what she was doing.

Sounds like you're on the NYC subway.

Par for the course!

An interested woman can be a strange creature to interpret...

Interested people...period......

Yeah, the attitude I get. It's just the timing and direction and intensity of her stare just as I was thinking about what a pain in the ass it can be when people won't move on an emptying train. I mean seats for 4 stops available. You know how they can empty out at the right transfer station....

Last edited by zkydz on 08 Jan 2016, 6:11 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I doubt it had anything to do with you. She sounds like a weirdo to me. I would never put my butt on somebody. That's just rude.

I wouldn't mind a woman being "interested" in me like that. That's never happened to me. I've always had to make the first move (except one time, when a woman dragged me into her apartment and mock-raped me).

Maybe she was oblivious (which I suspect); maybe she was nuts; who knows?

At least nothing bad happened to you.

I hope that's the case. I'm just getting a bit paranoid I guess finding out that you talk when you don't realize it. I mean, I always talked to myself when working, but I knew it then.

Don't bother trying to understand why some people on public transportation are the way they are, generally speaking nobody is happy on the bus or light rail or whatever and who knows what someone is going thru or what sort of health they're in.

She might of been annoyed you didn't give your seat too, it might be something totally unrelated, who knows?

My wife showed a pic of me when I was young to our upstairs neighbor. They said I looked like a ladyboy. So, I've had men and women throw themselves at me. Men were easier to decipher as it never had any sophistication....Usually just above "You shuuureee do got a purty mouth." Women always had to make the first move period. There were two separate times I was completely celibate for years on end (5 and 8 years each time). Didn't miss it a bit. But, when it would boil over...Pon Farr!! !

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My instincts tell me that this lady's actions had NOTHING to do with you.

She was probably a little kooky.

I'm fortunate: I haven't had a gay guy hit on me since I was about 20 years old. I'm just not that gorgeous!