How do I handle my loneliness?

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It sucks to be an aspie because you crave friends but can't make them. The loneliness is eating me from the inside and I want contact with people in real life, however every time I tried I failed miserably. This is causing me physical pain and driving me to tears. What should I do?

For the mean time perhaps we can be friends?

Been there, attempted suicide because of it.

what really helped me was i met some other people on the spectrum and that opened a door to a whole new world of friends.

Try and reach out and find other people on the same level as you on the spectrum, your more likely to be accepted by them (especially if you have the same special interest)

Sadly, I tried Internet friendships and they were unsatisfying.

Many times I was told to just go out there and get a life, but NTs don't understand how it is to have a broken brain that won't allow you to socialize like a normal person.

Basically I am used to being rejected and can't wrap my head around the idea of fitting in and being socially accepted.

In school I desperately tried to mask my symptoms and fit in, but it was as futile and impossible as trying to hide a car in a cereal box.

At college we have a management course once a week, and the teacher keeps telling us how important it is to have friends and fit in socially. Just imagine what sort of pain it causes me, like being in the middle of a hot desert and having someone show me a bottle of water. But he won't share that water with me and I will die from thirst.

Been to therapists, they said I was just obstinate and didn't take me seriously.

I'm not depressed for now but am at high risk of developing this monstrous illness.

Suicide is a touchy topic. I started contemplating it a few months ago and now have a plan that I could carry out at any time. My conscience keeps berating me for not acting on it, because instead I just stay alive and consume resources that would be better used by someone who is worthy of respect. Why don't I do the world a favor, end my pathetic misery? Dunno. Probably so that I could stay alive and drink coffee another day.

Dude there's way too much good coffee in the world... I'd send a bag of Salvadorian Guachoca if I could.

I find I'm rarely lonely at all whilst riding my bike...

Hard to be lonely during such an adrenaline-inducing activity.
Should I drink away my loneliness? I drink a glass of wine now and then, but since it's a small dose I don't experience any effects. I should increase the dosage but not too much so that I don't get a hangover.

I wish I hadn't let my bike rust over two winters ago

Plug your ears into the sonic waves and use it as a sink for your emotions. It's how I remain sane.

Actually coffee & wine share a set of compounds known as tannins, you might be craving those for the mellow effects...

I hoard bikes... not so great for my garage (or car ) but what started as a sport filling up my summers is looking like it will become a big collection. The returns I get compared to the wrenching I have to do are phenomenal...

I wish I had real interests that absorbed my attention, that way I'd forget about being lonely broken soul. But you can't force yourself to be interested in something, it has to come naturally.

Sports, Hobbies, and Interests are great way to connect to people.

What are the children your age into these days?

They fiddle with their phones/tablets all the time. But I don't care about that.

Same things they've always been interested in basically

I hate that when I try to socialize I simply annoy other people without accomplishing anything. It happened in real life as well as on other forums, where I got banned despite not breaking the rules.

No. Alcohol is a depressant, it will make you feel worse. Plus too much can be very bad for your health. My dad told me that he drank a lot during his teenage years and early adulthood and it made him feel a lot worse. Drinking won't wash away negative emotions.

Maybe it won't be a problem if I don't drink too much. Two glasses of wine every day should be enough to give me a bit of euphoria, just what I need.