Is What I am Doing Normal? What Should I Do To Improve?

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So here is my day. I wake up go to school. I have a group of people I sit with a breakfast and there cool. I go to all my classes some with friends some without. I eat lunch alone everyday because none of them are in my lunch. I go home say hey to my parents and just go into my room and go on my computer and watch YouTube and Netflix with no contact with anyone then go to sleep. I occasionally will talk to a friend for awhile on skype or something and VERY occasionally will go to a friends house or to the movies or something, but that happens once in a blue moon. When I am with friend(s) at school and in classes and stuff I am really happy, I love the social contact. But when I get home I barely have any of it. I don't know what to do or how to balance my life correctly. I don't really like going outside or playing sports because I am dyspraxic so I just suck at it and it puts a barrier between me and people. I really only have one or two friends that I talk to routinely at school but I don't know how to really go about hanging out with them or talking to them more often. I also need to meet more people, get a girlfriend who is similar to me etc. I don't know how to go about these things. I want to fix this but am not sure how. I need to set a goal. How much social contact do you guys think is healthy per day? Obviously it fluctuates per person but I know what I am doing now is not okay. And what should I do as a male 15 year old do to meet new people and talk to my current friends more often and hang out with them?

hard to get a healthy amount of social contact when on the spectrum

all I have to say is don't waste your energy on vain attempts to socialize, focus on your studies

I have the same problems at times.my social anxiety is so bad that the only things that seem to make me able to socialize more are drugs,medication and alcohol (*I dont drink or take drugs/strong meds much but when I do they make me feel a bit better). If you want to get better then you should see a therapist/psychiatrist, or you could join some kind of club/group in your community (it might be hard for you to find one that doesn't involve sports though)

Go outside and go places much more often even if is by yourself just to get used to it a bit and get some fresh air. Go to the local liberary or a museum to research your special interest. You might have to briefly interact with other people in order to find out where things are located. During the daytime on a weekday movie tickets are usually half price and the theater empty.

I don't think what you're doing is "abnormal." You're similar to me when I was your age. The only difference: I wasn't as popular as you.

I agree with the advice posted above.

Thought I might add I DONT have Aspergers. Just dyspraxia and anxiety (especially socially). My problem is estabshing relationships with people that go beyond school.

I think you'll do fine if you listen to what other people say, don't get angry if somebody doesn't share your opinion, and maintain good hygiene.

Yeah I see that. Also thinking of taking walks just to get outside, people or not. I will try to ask people to hang out after school more and I should be alright I hope. The only after school club I could find I might like was psychology club but I would be way to anxious to go to it without a friend going with

Psychology club would be cool!

eh maybe