Family & My Asperger

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Why is it that family thinks they know you & understand you? They DON'T know me 100% of the time & understand me most of the time, I don't understand them too. My older sister is the worst when she talk to me about money & taxes, I really get confused, cuz she talking toooo fast & my head is spinning, cuz I can't catch up with her, I don't understand. When that happens, my brain just shuts off, she can give toooooo much information & I can't deal, I never said nothing to her, cuz I don't want feel more stupid. She thinks she knows me, she told me she knows everything about my Asperger. She thinks she knows, cuz she is my sister. She wasn't in my life toooo much after I was 14, back then she moved out of our parents ' house. She always had better things to do than hang out with me, she never called me, she never wanted to be my big sister. My mom told me she was in denial about my Cerebral Palsy.

My family thinks they know me too, cuz they are family, they want to tell me what to do, cuz they are older & have more life experiences. They think I can do almost everything they can do, but I can't, all I can do is, do my best at things. I think they forgot I have Asperger.

Is anyone going through this with their family?

My parents aren't the most understanding people to begin with. My father generally just doesn't give a s**t regardless and doesn't even try to understand, and my mom, while she cares, almost suffers from some form of amenesia or something. I basically have to have the same conversation over and over and over with her explaining my conditions and the limitations it imposes on my life.

She will come to understand after a long discussion, and then just days later, she will act as if her memories were completely wiped, and each time I have to explain it to her, she acts shocked, like this its the first time I have ever told her. I will have to literally have the same conversation with my mom 100's of times throughout the year. Needless to say it gets tiring and frustrating.