Why was this boy looking me up and down?

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So today, I was to take a test in a private location with a supervisor. I was making my way down the hallway, chromebook, workbook, and test over my chest, when we passed two boys talking. One stopped and proceeded to look me up and down for so long that the other tapped him on the shoulder and said, "dude!"

I mean, was he checking me out? I was holding stuff to my chest and my skirt wasn't short enough that you could really see my thighs. :/

Its normal. What kid doesn't do that?

Yes, I definitely think he was checking you out. And, apparently making it blatantly obvious. However, to such a degree that seems abnormal to me. I'd think that he would have at least said something to you at that time. Or, perhaps he will in the future. But, if it makes you uncomfortable, then I would say something to him about it.

Also, personally, it does not matter whether I see a gal's body so much for me to check her out. I think it is more of a natural effort of sorts rather than anything super perverted or the like. He probably thought you were cute and decided he wanted to look some more. It always starts at the face for me and if a gal's face is not attractive to me, then I won't bother looking at her body. Just my experience, so hope it helps.

He seems like a pig. I'd totally slap his face

Yeah....they were checking you out---but in a sleazy manner.

Forget about those idiots,

Oh. Well, I wasn't really uncomfortable. I couldn't recognize the boy because his head was in motion. I guess it's okay if he wants to check me out, it means I'm attractive, right?

Sure. Although, to be more specific.. attraction is relative to the viewer. And, if a boy does ever make you uncomfortable, then I would act on that and be clear. You deserve to feel safe.

He proably found you attractive, yes. He was also probably awkward about it, and his mate chided him for his lack of subtlety.

Sincerely hope this is sarcasm.




Pretty girls can make guys into idiots, sure, but there was nothing very sleazy about what was described. Sleazy would be the guy making lewd gestures and/or fondling himself while staring at her or something.

I'm serious. I hate sleazyness. Why do people think it's okay to be that way

Insecurity, ego, power, and the desire for control.

I don't know, but I'd hesitate to accept as valid the opinion of someone who thinks it's acceptable to respond to being looked at with physical assault.




You're getting all this from a boy looking at a girl...?

I tend to run a "full scan" on the people I'm interested in, it rarely takes more than a couple of seconds though.

When I'm the one being looked who is being looked at, I find that younger people can keep staring at me until I look at them, while older people tend towards a glance, it holds for second, and then slowly moves on.



That just means you were already attractive enough without those hidden features. Despite what the movies tell you about us, most men only need to look into a woman's eyes to see her true beauty. At least that's how it works for me.



As do I.

So far, no less than 33 women have physically assaulted me, I pressed charges each and every time. All those women laughed at me, said this and that about how it's okay to hit men, how their entitled to it, and/or how superior women are to men. Yet 33 times, I sat across from 33 different women, on 33 separate days, in one singular courtroom. On each of those 33 days, not one among them was laughing, and for the first time in their lives they knew themselves as man's equal, in all things.

It's sad that I have to take things to such an extreme, but I find it more sad that some women sincerely believe that it's okay to physically abuse men without repercussions.

Why would 33 women try to hit you if you dis nothing wrong though? Nobody just walks up to some stranger and hits them for nothing. Nobody.

No I believe men and women are equal, that's why I don't like sleaziness. I don't think it's fine to hit a man without reason and get away with it at all.

You certainly must have been doing something wrong to get all that because if your just minding your own business you don't get assaulted that much no matter where you are in the world

No, just reasoning behind vulgar behavior. A person who is not truly confident in their ability to court a mate relies on indirect methods such as cat calls and behavior that implies their interest rather than placing their pride at risk by being direct such as asking a gal out or complimenting her, smiling at her, or anything more appropriate.

This way they keep their ego intact (because remember, they are insecure about their abilities) and this places them in a position of power, so that if the female is responsive, then it is on his terms.

This is an attempt to court a female by controlling the situation and saving grace. Thing is, they don't realize that it's a psychological self defense mechanism.

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You consider assaulting a man for "looking at you" just cause?

However, merely looking at people counts as a reason, in your own submission.

That is a very nice pile of victim blaming you got there. "They wouldn't have assaulted you if you did nothing wrong!" "if you didn't deserve to be murdered you'd still be alive!"

I agree that men and women should be treated equal. That's why it's no more acceptable for me to punch a woman in the face for looking at me than for the reverse to take place. You know, that exact thing you advocated for earlier.




Again, you're blowing this so far out of proportion it's not even funny. (most) Boys like looking at girls. Boys are not always subtle. It happens, it's healthy and it's not a problem. You're treating it like a boy looking at a girl has wronged her, an implication that I do not appreciate.