Autism and being childish

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are any other autistics/aspies out there really childish? i am and i was wondering if its normal to be that way.

a lot of my behavior is childish . especially my stims. i handle emotions childishly too. its awful
i think the worst part about it is that im 18 years old...

I'll be 55 in three days....and I'm still a big kid!

Yeah. It sucks.

If you consider stimming a childish act. Then I've got bad news for you. It's a childish sct that you will never outgrow. But don't despair. There are ways to integrate your stims into a more socially appropriate manner. like yoga stretching, contortion and exercises. When people see you doing that. They just think that your limbering up your body.

I'm 54 years, 362 days old.....and I still howl in the streets.

^ I see what you did there, sir.

Take a deep breath, pound on your chest and go Cockadoodledoo!! like Peter Pan. Damn!! Now that's stimmin!

My wife is always calling me a big kid because my special interests are disguised as hobbies. She says I play with toys when I build my models. She doesn't condemn. Just blunt.

Is that childish?

As long as you fulfill your adult responsibilities, you're not childish.

Kinda did get away from me during the initial discovery process I've been going through since November. But, fortunately, tense as it was most of the time, being away with family seemed to break the obsessive cycle I was in. It's just now back to a basic special interest. Thank goodness too. It's really not fun when it's an obsession and not just interesting. And, I gotta get my head back together.

Welcome to the club, as long as you know when to get serious and be responsible I'd say its alright.

Kinda lost control though this time. That's never happened. I wonder what would have happened if I hadn't gone on holiday though. That's what broke the cycle. But, the one thing I can say in my defense is this: It was a very, very stressful July through November between several things, going to China and overloading there, coming back and discovering I may be Autistic (waiting on official Diagnosis before I commit to it, but strongly believe as all indicators are there, I am) and trying to find doctors and, well, things that overwhelmed me.

But, I am working on it.

I did think of one thing though. When it comes to romantic interests, I have been stuck at the 'pulling the pigtails stage' since, well, pulling pigtails. If I am interested, I will do what is apparently obnoxious things. If I can hold a serious conversation with a woman and not get stupid, I'm only interested in their mind. And, I have no clue if a woman is ever interested in me.

Does that make sense?

I'm 23 and can be quite childish at times. It depends on the situation. But I feel much younger than my actual age.

Yep I'm pretty oblivious to women giving hints that they like me. I also miss read signs, I once thought my ASD Psychiatrist was coming on to me. I kinda did the pulling pigtail thing in high school but I'm a teenager and you're a man in your 50s it way less socially appropriate.

Nowadays I can find a woman attractive but not let that thought dominate me.

I kinda did the pulling pigtail thing in high school but I'm a teenager and you're a man in your 50s it way less socially appropriate.


Well Primeminister Of new Zealand doesnt seem to think so! lol

I've been told i have an "innocence" about me. I guess that is more flattering than "naivete." As a teenager, i had a lot of difficulty regulating emotions. Even at 18 yrs old, i would say. Kind of a long time ago, but i remember crying over stupid stuff that i would never cry over now. Hormones played a part--even at 18, while it's not as bad as 13 or 14, your hormones are still getting regulated and you are still finishing growing up.

Now i have learned to not show emotions as much. I have weird triggers for tears--i cry at things that to me seem stupid at times, and don't cry when most other people do. Over the years, I have learned to mask my anger and focus on something else if i am about to cry in a setting that no one will understand tears...or run and hide if i can't stop it. And put on a somber face when everyone else is crying and my eyes are dry.

But in spite of learning to appear more normal, i would say i am often still childish in manner and expression.