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hi there i am having lots of trouble with myself because i feel very anxious and confused everyday and most days when i am at college. i cant work out what is causing this to happen or occur and i find it very difficult to cope with it most days. thank you very much for your kind advice.

You may find that anxiety increases in proportion to a lack of routine or other unsettled schedule or activity.

It may help to set aside part of your time for a fixed pattern such as dining or going to the library such that there is in each day that which is familiar and fixed. Sometimes this can provide a "safe harbor" from which to deal with those events, people, and circumstances which are unsettling.

I don't like school at all. Anyway, if you ever want to chat, feel free to pm me. [I am the smiley sunshine girl, after all! ]

I found college exceedingly stressful.
new room - with a roommate - that changed five times in one year.
new daily schedule
new city
new food
new noises
lots of noises
new people, faces
lots of people
lots of people moving & talking. loudly.
new environments like labs & auditorium classrooms...with a different seat each day.

It felt like I had no control over anything, and nothing was constant. I was overstimulated internally and out. I got through only by simplifying my environment as much as possible, as often as possible. And making notes, maps, schedules and taping them in obvious places for each need (desktop, wall, notepad cover, etc). I reduced my world to the desk in my room, "my" kiosk-desk in the library (on a mostly unused floor) and the classrooms I needed to visit. After a while, I was able to slowly expand that world, one or two new things at a time, as I felt comfortable. By the time I was done, I knew the campus, it's rhythms and patterns and procedures as good as the home I was raised in.

I had the same problems at uni to the point that it took 23 years (on and off) to get a degree. What I didn't do was access my universities counselling and disability services early enough. They were actually very accommodating. So if your college has these services please use them don't isolate yourself like I did. Good luck.